This is a very long article. So I broke it into 3 parts. I'll post it gradually. Here's a little plan. Part 1. I will share 2 of my points that are important to me about my experience: what I noticed about my experiences and how it affected me. And I’ll describe a little how I see the situation about what is happening to people right now in the context of the external events that are happening here. Parts 2 and 3. I’ll tell you point by point everything that I remember about how to support yourself if it’s difficult now. PART 1. I'll start with a small lyrical digression. I have no idea to express my position regarding the situation. There is no idea to support anyone in any position. If I see comments that reflect this, I will delete them immediately. My text is about a person, human needs, experiences, difficulties and methods of self-support. 2 small bright stories about my experiences. The first happened to me in February, when a special operation was announced. Social networks at that time simply turned into a battlefield, a field for expressing hysteria, panic, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt and much more. Some actively wrote, others were shocked and actively remained silent. I was actively silent. Once again, scrolling through my social network feed, I came across a message about how a person calls on psychologists to do this and that... I got hooked on this message for my professional identity. What did I start doing? I began to actively think about what kind of “radish” this person is and how he can write it like that. I also honestly discovered anger, resentment and some shame. Then I had a “freeze frame”. It became clear and empirical to me: oh, this is how this happens, how the war begins, flares up! Here. Now, with my feelings of anger, resentment and shame, I am a quality “soldier” on the “battlefield”. I didn’t want to be further angry, offended, or ashamed. I clearly saw how and where I was building my route. After that, I was able to treat that “radish” with sympathy and acceptance. Yes, that person has a lot of feelings, he has his own reasons for speaking out like that. And somehow I was released. Until the next bright episode. The second one happened in September. When, after the announcement of mobilization, after some time, I fell into anxiety. Right in the morning, I realized that I was in trouble. Strong. I don’t want to do anything, I can’t, it’s hard to concentrate. It’s as if the ground is disappearing from under your feet, you want to rush around the house in search of something you don’t know. Then there was a weekday, business, a training and work event. And this is what I accurately tracked while in my anxiety. If I don’t do anything with my experience: I don’t stop myself, I don’t allow myself to be qualitatively worried, to live it, I don’t do any work with my anxiety - I begin to pick up “context” from everywhere (events, stories, news, the anxiety of other people), which crushes me even more! I open the Internet and terrible and alarming news pops up right under my eyes. I get into a taxi, where the driver talks about corpses, corpses and more corpses. I communicate with people, not to mention my anxiety (!) - I start to grab from them and fall through. At this moment, a “freeze frame” also happened to me. If I don’t do anything with my original source experience, it will continue to cover me even stronger, stronger and stronger. Actually, I managed to sort out the anxiety and was released again. I’m not saying that, except for these cases, I don’t have any feelings at all about what’s happening. I am, of course. I wanted to share these two stories as an example of how we find ourselves in a “whirlpool.” In a whirlpool of polar opinions, our own deep experiences. What is happening to us now? Let's look at Maslow's pyramid of needs. The second lowest level of needs is the need for security (I feel safe, I don’t feel afraid). But we, the majority of society, do not feel safe, we feel fear. Those. there is some rollback to our “basic settings”, to the settings