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In life, we all have our price, including in personal relationships. For example, employers evaluate us: skills, abilities, work experience, additional education, recommendations, health, age. We also evaluate potential life partners. A girl looks at a man and wonders how he is dressed - expensive, how does he look, how is he healthy, strong, romantic, caring, financially reliable and personally successful? Men evaluate, first of all, a girl’s attractiveness, sexuality, ability to communicate, etc. The word “evaluate” comes from the word “price”, and every person is valuable, but someone is more expensive, it’s just subjectively perceived by people, and someone is “cheap”. For example, girls, for some reason, consider the mechanic Vasya, with three classes of education and a corresponding set of familiar words, to be a less expensive candidate for marriage than the banker Vova, with two higher educations and a small mansion in the Canary Islands. This means that there is such a market - personal relationships, which is sometimes called the marriage market. Any girl or young man in this market is somehow valued. Now, more specifically, let’s say there is a girl whose qualities and merits, relatively speaking, are in the “ten” range. This includes the ability to communicate, earn money, be independent and other valuable qualities. Any person wants others to perceive him as positively as possible, that is, to note all the positive things and, if possible, not notice the shortcomings. Therefore, any girl (young man) tries to demonstrate their advantages - they want to look more expensive. And this is where the fun begins. A girl, of course, can find herself a young man whom she can control. He should have fewer qualities and advantages, about a “six”, i.e. knowledge and skills, valuable personal qualities, opportunities to earn money, etc. objectively less. In this case, he is obliged to pay her extra. What? What is the universal equivalent of retribution in human relationships? These are rights. If she is a “ten”, and he is cheaper - a “six”, then he must pay her extra with the absence of rights and the presence of responsibilities. She doesn't have to call him, but he has to call her first. She has the right to be late - he is obliged to wait for her, because he is interested in her. He has fewer rights, he seeks her, and since he is interested, accordingly, she has more rights to manage him. On the other hand, the young lady enjoys managing this young man, but she wants a guy who is fifteen. And then the girl begins to understand that the one who is “fifteen” is more expensive than her: he is smarter, more beautiful, more talented. By the way, she is at “10”, and there are also girls at “11”, “12”, etc., it turns out that she is standing in line. The standard situation is that the one she wants does not pay attention to her: she is very “cheap” for him. And whoever she doesn’t need pesters her completely and doesn’t notice. Real life situation? Nothing new has been invented, it exists. The dilemma is not easy. What to do in such a situation? How to live further in this “relationship market”? In any case, you need to become more expensive. If in reality you still assess yourself as not a very dear person, then you need to understand what you need to do to become a dear person? It’s all very simple: “If you want a prince next to you, become a princess!” For example, what personal qualities are useful to develop? What to add to your communication style? Maybe take care of your health, lose weight? It doesn’t matter how this “personal relationship market” values ​​you now, what matters is what else you do to “value” every day. We woke up in the morning, lived the day in such a way that by the evening we became at least in some way more perfect, smarter, better, and so on every day. Then you will always develop and grow every day, and accordingly, rise in price in the “line relationship market.”».