In psychology there are different words to denote the human condition. We say “a person in neurosis”, “a person with a personality disorder”, “a person is in crisis”. Although in practice, a person himself does not always and does not immediately understand what is happening to him at a given moment in time. Nevertheless, step No. 1 to improving his condition: - notice that something is happening wrong and - name it, designate it " “not so” in some word, that is, to understand what is happening. There is a condition that is most difficult to detect, including for a psychologist in himself. This is a crisis state. According to Dmitry Trunov’s definition, “A crisis state is a special state that goes beyond everyday life, occurs in the life of every person and arises as a reaction to any external or internal causes and circumstances. In other words, a crisis state is the first , what happens to a person when his usual life begins to develop in an unusual way. Whether it happens abruptly or slowly - it doesn’t matter. A crisis state is always a way to mobilize the body’s resources to adapt to new environmental conditions. Changes in life that require the mobilization of resources are called a crisis. changes are situational crises or crises of circumstances: - loss, threat of loss of loved ones or significant values ​​(for example, freedom, health, etc.), - inability to achieve or gain something (for example, dismissal, arrest), - a situation of violence , - emergency situations (ES), catastrophes, natural disasters. Slow changes - developmental crises: - age-related (the most striking - teenage, mid-life crisis), - existential (related to the development of values, revision of the worldview). So, we can say that you are in a state of crisis when:... there is a corresponding reason - circumstance, situation, period;... you experience strong, prolonged negative emotions; there are significantly more of them than positive ones; emotions are contradictory and you want to stop it;... you often think about why and why this is all happening now, why to you, how it will affect your life and what needs to be done to prevent this from happening again;... it seems to you that you lose control over life, there is a feeling that you are missing out on something important, you are doing impulsive things;... the world is perceived as gloomy, gray, and people are insincere, hostile;... there is a feeling of loss of meaning in life, loss of life guidelines;... nothing I don’t want to do it; I want someone else to solve all the problems;... chronic diseases have worsened, there are physical ailments. Each of these symptoms is, at a minimum, a way to attract attention. However, a crisis state is a normal reaction to changing (abnormal) circumstances. It is important to live it! You can do this on your own, but it’s better to do it together with someone - loved ones, friends, good acquaintances and a psychologist (even if, on the contrary, you want to stop communicating with everyone). The benefit of communicating with a psychologist is that with him you may feel more comfortable going through this negative, unpleasant emotions - he is not interested in saving you from these feelings or devaluing you for the sake of his condition, as friends can do (like - “yes, everything will work out, that’s you”). And! If these symptoms persist for a long time (more than a year, for example; or you just feel tired), this is definitely a reason to seek help. Often, especially in Russian culture, we do not strive to experience our grief and get stuck at this stage. And there it is not far from the development of neurosis, which can darken your life for many, many years. Yes, the world is changing. Yes, you are changing. Yes, life is not stable. And how I would like everything to be different... But it is not so. Living and accepting it is not always easy, not always easy. But you can. Sincerely, Polina Merkusheva clinical psychologist (psychoanalytic approach) +79523388942, [email protected] If you liked the material, please click “Say thanks”! Based on: 1) Psychological counseling in crisis situations., 2013