Today we will talk about the role of a parent in a child’s life. Parental love is the first and most significant type of love that a child learns. As you know, the basic need of a little person is the need for security and acceptance, which is expressed both on the physical and psychological levels. All this serves as a necessary basis for the development of an integral component of mental and personal development - attachment. A child’s sense of security is established in the early stages of his development and is almost entirely determined by the quality of parental care. In the context of our reasoning, Karen Horney's concept of basic human anxiety is updated. The difficulty or impossibility of satisfying the need for security causes a violation of the satisfaction of the need for love, which at the subjective level manifests itself in non-acceptance of oneself. Basic non-acceptance/denial of oneself, established in childhood, persists into adulthood, manifesting itself in the form of low self-esteem, uncertainty, and difficulty in relationships with the opposite sex. Horney uses the concept of “basic anxiety” as the experience of the world as a hostile and aggressive source of threat, as well as experiencing oneself as helpless and rejected. It is important to remember that the need for security in childhood can be realized in different ways, and, as a result, an adult “chooses” different strategies for relating to the world and those who surround him: • the strategy “to people", which is manifested by compliance, conformity, an increased need to be accepted, loved; • the "away from people" strategy, expressed by the desire for isolation, withdrawal, refusal to establish close relationships; • the "against people" strategy - such a person is hostile, aggressive, confronts to others. resists any innovation, attempt to subjugate a partner. The human psyche is able to cope with basic anxiety and tension using various strategies: detachment (distancing), conflict, projection onto a partner, projection onto children (illness of children). The distancing strategy determines emotional coldness and detachment in relationships, projection onto a partner is an expression of tension on the partner regarding all social problems of the family, projection onto children determines overprotection and anxiety in parenting, conflict allows the expression of negative emotional energy. To be continued... For consultations, you can contact us by phone. 8913 970 30 62 (Telegram)