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From the author: The ability to correctly understand one’s feelings and adequately express them is a natural quality of mature people, however, children are often unable to do this. Emotions are an important component of any person’s life. The ability to correctly understand their feelings and adequately express them is a natural quality of mature people, however, children are often unable to do this. And if everyone expresses joy in approximately the same way, it can be very difficult for a child to understand how to get rid of negative emotions. To understand and support. It is the baby’s negative emotions that cause the most trouble for parents. Tears, crying and physical aggression, which very rarely can be stopped with a simple “stop”, are familiar to many mothers and fathers. So what to do in such a situation? The first step here is to teach your child to channel his negative feelings into a peaceful direction. However, their manifestation should not be prohibited, since the constant suppression of anger and resentment can unexpectedly find a way out on a defenseless cat or some object. Also, unexpressed negative emotions can be directed by the child inside himself, which can lead to mental disorders and depressive states, and this is already quite dangerous. A child’s ability to overcome “negativity” largely depends on how competently his parents approach solving this problem. When a child feels bad, hurt, or something doesn’t work out, he should see, feel and know that dad and mom will understand and support him. Tactics of parental behavior. Never tell a crying or sad baby that he is upset because of nonsense. This way he will understand that his feelings are not taken seriously, but right now he needs support. Don’t reproach with the phrases “good kids don’t misbehave”, “strong boys don’t cry”, etc. - this will only force the child to be ashamed and hide his real emotions. Label each emotion with words, so over time the baby will learn to understand what he feels and speak without shouting when he is upset or angry. At 2-3 years of age, many babies show their anger and resentment through physical aggression towards their loved ones. Here it is important not to miss the moment and explain to the baby that this cannot be done, and that you can take out your anger on a pillow or ball. If the child is rowdy, crying, screaming, give him the opportunity to throw out all his feelings, and only when he calms down, talk about what happened. Remember that all emotions have their own functions, and negative ones only signal that the situation in which we find ourselves does not suit us and we need to somehow change the situation. So it’s important to show how to get rid of negative emotions to a child, but not to try to eradicate them. Always try not to show sharp negative attacks in front of your baby, and especially don’t direct them at him.