What kind of burning feeling torments you day after day if your partner suddenly shows sympathy or pays attention to another person? Jealousy. A word that shakes the sea in which the boat of relationships rocks. It is a conscious feeling of exclusion and loss of something. It is accompanied by fear and uncertainty, because a jealous person feels disconnected from the world of his partner. Jealousy feverishly strives to maintain its dependent social connections. With jealousy, the emphasis is on the exclusive possession of what a person considers to be his “treasure”. The root cause of jealousy is your ego, self-esteem. The way you see yourself and who you think you are. This is where most of your pain, suffering and depression comes from. When the Ego sees that the “treasure” is floating out of sight to foreign shores, it perceives everything that surrounds the “treasure” as enemies and becomes hostile. In the spectrum of human emotions, jealousy can be called one of the most complex and traumatic phenomena. This mixture of sadness, anger and suspicion can destroy relationships, cause bouts of depression, anxiety, and possibly lead to serious violence. The main causes of jealousy are: Fear of replacement. A person worries that the “treasure” will leave him and choose another owner. Individual psychological factors. Past experiences can increase the likelihood of jealousy. A person who has been betrayed by a lover in the past may be more prone to suspicion. If parents modeled jealousy in childhood, then this tendency is quite understandable. Increased anxiety can also influence jealousy. Relationship quality. Some people are more prone to jealousy than others, but jealousy is especially severe in unstable or unloving relationships. If you are not sure of the love of your “treasure,” jealousy is likely to become explosive. Jealousy is not always negative. It can alert you to problems in your relationship and help you recognize potential external threats. Ways to overcome jealousy: Communication. Always express your opinion, talk to your partner about your fears, suspicions and worries. Often it is the lack of information that leads to disastrous consequences. Practice honesty and trust in relationships. You know your partner doesn't cheat. This means you can always ask him about where he is and with whom, and calm your suspicions. If a partner has been caught lying many times, then jealousy is inevitable. You should reconsider your attitude to what is happening. After all, it is your choice to love a liar. Emphasis on your development. When you focus on self-development, your own goals and achievements in the outside world, your control over your partner will disappear. You will not have time to “deal with” jealousy.Increasing self-esteem. This point is inextricably linked with the previous one. Analyze your attitude towards yourself and towards other people. Research your needs. Think about how often you can envy someone? Would you like to change your life? What needs to be done to change the situation? Become a “treasure” in your own eyes and, believe me, you will also shine in the eyes of your partner! Are you tormented by jealousy? Is it difficult for you to cope with it? We'll talk about it. Click on the Get Consultation button under the publication or follow the link: http://diana-amagaeva.tilda.ws/