Usually near-psychological essays study how to accept and present yourself. Then you can still love it all. What if there is nothing to accept or present at all? That’s what I’m talking about here. It happens that, having taken up the topic of accepting and presenting yourself, you dig up piles of rubble from all sorts of attitudes, experiences and misconceptions, and instead of enlightenment you find yourself in some incomprehensible viscous substance. Or with an unpleasant and unexpected inner silence. They lifted all these rubble, uncovered the layers, and there was nothing there at all. Emptiness. And it didn’t become clearer at all how to show oneself to the world and bring oneself into relationships with people, because as if there was nothing to show. And in general, it has become even worse. In fact, this is a good point from which you can finally grow the Self, which until this moment literally had nowhere to develop. For the successful formation of the self, every little person needs enough space. Like, for example, a plant in a pot needs enough space to develop its root system. If the pot is too small, the plant will be weak or even die. But even a frail plant has a root system that can develop. Only until now there was no suitable pot. This is exactly what happens to little Me when the rubble was cleared and more space appeared. It has become too empty around me and I am lost in this new large space. But this does not mean that there is absolutely nothing there. The feeling of silence and emptiness here is more likely due to the fact that no one really addressed the Self until this turning point. And now it’s good to start carefully, slowly addressing this small and fragile self: where is it there, how is it, what does it see, what hears what he feels; what you like, what you don’t like, and why this and that way. We move in microsteps so that a complete picture of how it all works there is gradually collected. So that I have this Self. Without such a well and patiently collected picture, it is impossible to establish a relationship with myself and an attitude towards myself. And “accepting yourself” means precisely the relationship with yourself. I would even say that a relationship with myself is a system in which I have a relationship with my different qualities, I know important things about myself and I can correlate one with the other within myself. From here there will be an opportunity to show myself, because I already know for sure what I am showing and how. I actually have content; I’m no longer empty inside. Such possession of a picture of oneself and a relationship with oneself opens up a space for relationships with other people, which before was either completely impossible or was organized crookedly and unreliably. Now relationships are born not in order to be able to function and survive, but because there is an opportunity to fully meet with others, without smearing or disappearing.