How often do you experience stress or anxiety and compare yourself to others? How often do you scold yourself and criticize yourself for not being “good” enough? Constant flows of information around We are constantly broadcast various lifestyles, happy families, ideal figures, the successes of different people and much more, which leads to the fact that you feel like a complete failure. You are stuck in an endless stream of information about happy families, ideal partners, ideal figures, the success of different of people. You feel like a complete failure. You are not beautiful enough... you are successful enough... you are not smart enough... you are not loved enough... you are not happy enough... Each of us has an internal “drive” that pushes us to be smarter, more successful, happier, more beautiful, more talented, better and better. And especially, all these desires and aspirations become obvious and desirable when we compare ourselves with others or with our ideal images of how things should be. And it’s very difficult to stop yourself in this process, isn’t it? Comparison is an integral part of our life and, in general, an important component in human evolution and development. Comparison can be constructive or destructive. If as a result of comparison you get inspiration, motivation, and a desire to act, then we are talking about a constructive comparison. When comparison leads to frustration, emotional distress and stress, we are talking about destructive comparison. And the good news is that you can control this process. Comparison that destroys. This is the kind of comparison that robs you of motivational energy and leaves you completely crushed, empty and hopeless. Comparing your “reality” with the “apparent reality” of others. WHAT you see on the Internet and on TV is not a real picture of the lives of different people. These are most likely carefully selected excerpts from their lives from real reality. Mostly, on social media and on TV, you can only see the good side of the diverse lives of the people you compare yourself to. “Don’t compare yourself and your life from behind the scenes to other people’s carefully prepared stage performances and images. What you see is just the tip of the iceberg." Sepi Tajima Comparing your “start” with other people’s “middle or finish”. For example, if you are a beginner athlete and compare yourself and your achievements with the successes of professional athletes who have been in sports for a long time, this is a destructive comparison. Comparing yourself in areas that are actually not so important in your life. If you don't need a romantic relationship at this stage of your life, then why compare yourself to happy married couples?! And vice versa, if family and relationships are important to you, then why compare yourself with your single friends who are having a blast?! You have different priorities. If you don't want to start your own business, why compare yourself to your business friends?! Be more attentive to what and with whom you compare yourself. What seems valuable to us now is not always our true values. Often, these are just imposed values ​​from the outside world through TV, the Internet, magazines, social life, friends. Determine what is really valuable to you now in your life. Comparisons in areas in which you cannot change something. Here we are talking about skin color, nationality, place where you were born, family you were born into, nationality and origin of your parents, etc. Comparison that inspires. Comparing yourself with yourself in the past. Appreciate and notice every merit, success, victory. Celebrate and cherish every achievement and positive change in yourself. Life is not always simple and easy. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself: “Stop thinking that someone is better than you. Be better than you yesterday every day." People who embody who you want to become in the future are?