Illusion of stability and knowledge “as it should” or automatism of consciousness. Who told us that someone knows “how to”, and why did we firmly believe in it? Probably to all of us, in childhood, mom and dad said something very confidently, that we should do it like this, and we did it, and we were praised for it and we remembered it. or we were scolded for something we didn’t do and we remembered it too. But they did not warn that they said this in that specific situation, at your age, and in that specific case. The child believed and learned that this is the norm for all similar and not very similar cases. Then in adult life, if the case is similar, then we act without thinking, we have learned the “rules”, if the situation is not similar, the brain comes up with a similar case and again decides how it once learned the lesson and we again act as we did in childhood. We react and choose the same answer. We really need automatisms in the body, we don’t think about how we walk, how we do the built-in movements and skills that we once learned in infancy, learning to do something to care for ourselves, our body and then, when they learned to sit, crawl, walk, run, talk, hold a spoon, write, draw, work, drive a car, solve examples, multiplication tables, division, all sorts of rules, road rules, safety precautions in transport, elevators, in water, etc. ..But mental automatisms are traps of consciousness. It comes to the point that in a relationship we begin, by inertia, to love, be friends, smile, be offended, be at enmity, not communicate, communicate, see in a person not how he changes, but what we once automatically fixed the label on - this is so, and no other way! Somewhere inside there is a “shelf” for good people and bad, and everyone also has a “sticker”: I’m not friends with this one, he’s bad, greedy, evil, this one I love him, he’s good , Kind. A friend, a neighbor, a mother, a father, a brother - this... And no matter what they are like every day, how they behave, the versatility and ambiguity of man, by the automatisms of the psyche, are narrowed down to the point of the person himself, and we perceive him from this “sticker”, confidently telling everyone to others - he is! Automatisms of the psyche influence our inertial reaction to a person, preventing us from seeing a real person, with his feelings, subtle motives, nuances and actions. How to get out of them? Through our sensuality and acceptance that we ourselves are not permanent creatures, not fixed in our reactions and behavior. To see changes in yourself at the beginning and stop seeing yourself as clearly “right”, like I have the right to put “stickers” or put people and myself on a shelf. There are simply no clearly bad or good people on earth. And from here, accepting your imperfection and ambiguity, learn to accept the same in other people. Living yourself, you can see life and changes in other people. Make an appointment by phone: +375 29 62 999 03 Emilia Yuldasheva