Do you have your own opinion? Is it important for you to share your opinion? Do you love doing this? Do you like communities of people where there are people like you? Then you need to be able to talk to people whose opinions will differ from yours. Therefore, there are several principles that can and should be discussed in the comments to this article, and which, in theory, can help you simplify your communication in a conflict environment. Principle 1. Remember that there are no right people at all. And not the right ones either. In any dialogue there is always a place for OPINIONS. And the authority of an opinion, more often than not, depends on erudition, stubbornness, arrogance and intelligence, rather than on proximity to some kind of objectivity. 99.5% of psychology articles or forum topics are based on the OPINION of the author, not randomized, double-blind studies. Just remember this. If you encounter a psychologist, remember that he is an ordinary person. With the usual opinion. Subjective. Principle 2: Don't tell the other person they are wrong. Seriously. Any “you’re wrong” automatically stresses out a human psychologist. Especially if it happens in public. Especially when your “you’re wrong” can be seen/heard by people significant to the psychologist. For example, his potential clients :). And then the human psychologist begins to take a defensive stance. Or even immediately goes into a retaliatory attack. On the other hand, you can say in the style of “this is my opinion.” And justify your opinion. ONCE. What and how they will answer you is no longer your problem. You have established yourself, you have shown an alternative position. You, if necessary, answered the questions that arose for you. Principle 3. Keep your goal in mind. The human psyche is flexible. And therefore, it can allow its owner to move from the original topic of dialogue to an exchange of barbs, attacks and even insults very quickly. That's why. Think about what you want to get by telling a human psychologist that he is wrong (well, or demonstrating your opinion): - Convince him? Don't flatter yourself. Persuasion requires a lot of effort and time. And desires. And to be asked about it. - To speak out? Express yourself? Get interesting dialogue? Decide on your goal, and stick to it. This will make your communication much easier. Principle 4. Facts or emotions. If you are not a philosopher or a thinker of a planetary scale in the “genius of pure intellect” format (if there are such things), then you do not necessarily need to conduct a dialogue only in terms of facts. Stick to the facts if you have them. It's simple. This can be done sequentially. This shows you as an intelligent person. Or. Stick to the emotions. This is also simple. This can be done inconsistently. This allows you to respond to any argument in the style of “oh, that’s it...”. It's fun and interesting. And, paradoxically, this may also correspond to your opinion. And if it seems to your opponent that you are not a serious person, this will be his SUBJECTIVE opinion... Yes, and be prepared for the fact that a human psychologist will find a deep hidden meaning in your set of facts/emotions. And this is also his subjective opinion. Principle 5. Check your projections. Feel free to ask about what you saw/understood. Apply labels regarding a human psychologist. Build cause-and-effect chains. That is, you can afford to build your conclusions based on linking the position of a human psychologist to his personality. After all, a person’s personality always influences his judgment. And then the following will happen: Option A. The psychologist will smile at your spontaneity and let your attack pass by. Option B. The psychologist will start shouting that you are violating his boundaries. Option B. The psychologist will start to attack you. What this gives you - you will understand who is in front of you. Well, in the third case you will get a lot of noise. It is what it is. Principle 6. Give a person the right to make mistakes. Do you see that you are right? Great! Give the human psychologist the opportunity to be in his swamp. Give him the opportunity to be imperfect. Give him the opportunity to be different: