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I considered it my duty to write an article about how not to get confused and make the right decision if an unexpected pregnancy occurs. About this here: https://www.b17.ru/article/409527/?prt=92671 I did not touch upon religious aspects. Each person has his own moral principles and beliefs. “Do not judge and you will not be judged.” Moreover, the chief judge and the executioner often lives within you. Many women hastily have an abortion, and then reproach, sometimes even destroy themselves after what happened. Internal self-humiliation sometimes lasts for years. If a woman does not turn to a psychologist, then at least let her read what condition after an abortion requires attention .For this purpose, a new article on how to cope with the consequences of an abortion. Termination of pregnancy, medicinal or surgical, can be traumatic for the psyche. Experiences that women face: 1. Guilt: - that I killed the child - that I didn’t saved the relationship, did not allow it to develop, change (if I had kept the pregnancy, the man would have been with me (returned) Guilt about having an abortion, which manifested itself after many years, if, for example, adult children leave the family, die or something happens with my husband: I could have a child from him (another child) 2. Loneliness and abandonment. It may appear unexpectedly, then this speaks of previously unexperienced losses. Example: a girl grew up without a father (died, left), the child did not survive the loss, now blocked childhood feelings come to life in a new loss. 3. Melancholy or sadness. It also stems from the unlived. Longing that you can’t get anything back, that other children will not have a possible brother or sister; that this child could love me... 4. Regret and powerlessness. I was in a hurry, now I can’t return anything. 5. Fear that I won’t be able to get pregnant again. Or fear of exposure. This also includes the horror of appearing before the Almighty for a sin committed. 6. Anger at oneself or at a partner, mother (someone else), one has not left. 7. Shame. Since I allowed an abortion, it means I’m a terrible, bad person. Probably, this attitude towards myself was formed long ago, termination of pregnancy is hitting a sore spot... The shameful part must be healed in the process of psychotherapy. 8. More than six months have passed since the abortion, the woman doesn’t want anything, no energy. This is an indicator that the feelings listed above are stopped, blocked. A depressive episode is possible. Sometimes people do not correlate apathy with an abortion. Actually, like other experiences. They do not correlate it in connection with the idea: I did it myself. How can I suffer now? Feelings do not ask us... What to do? Mourn the abortion. Whether immediately, or years later. Guilt. You need to determine whether this is real or neurotic guilt. Real: I had an abortion in a state of shock, woke up, how could I? Abortion is not morally acceptable. Or I began to delve into it and it turned out that it was a sin. Now I consider myself sinful and this is my value. The only thing that will help here is atonement. Then actions: - according to your faith. For example, in Orthodoxy you can give a repentance prayer (prayer for unborn children). - symbolize loss: plant a tree, a rose bush; weave a wreath and float it down the river in memory...Remember, if you were absolved of a sin in confession, given communion, but you do not forgive yourself, this is a sin, pride counts. Neurotic guilt: you are an atheist, but you blame yourself. A murderer, an unworthy woman. Stop! -You had an abortion at 5 weeks. These were cells... Try to think in this direction. A chronically guilty person has little energy. The development of the woman herself stagnates, her loved ones suffer. To experience grief, which includes a spectrum of different painful emotions, you can write: - I won’t have a further list of what exactly: it’s January, I could already be in the 16th week and find out the gender, but I will never know, I will not be the mother of a possible child, the child I imagine, my friend is now pregnant - I could be at the same stage as her; I will not take him to kindergarten, as a friend from the next door does. Further, all thoughts regarding a possible pregnancy and birth of a child