Couple (marital, partner) therapy is more effective for restoring and clarifying relationships than individual therapy. This statement is a scientifically proven fact. Couples therapy does not focus on the individual experiences of the spouses (although it certainly takes them into account), but on the interaction between them. Individual therapy Couples therapy In individual therapy, the personal space of the client is discussed, in couples, the space between clients is discussed. There is a search for answers to the questions: What is happening between us? Why did this happen between us? How can we restore the relationship between us? At the same time, we are not looking for a “scapegoat” that ends any marital conflicts, but a way out of the vicious circle, the whirlpool in which the spouses find themselves. After all, both remember the time when they were happy together, when they loved each other. It is these memories that keep them close to each other. Initially, the idea of ​​​​assigning someone to blame is not familiar to spouses, but it is an important turning point in the relationship, when the partner ceases to be an enemy, and again returns to the image of a loved one, dear and reliable person. After all, if you live with the enemy, then life will be like a war, a war against your family. At the same time, couples therapy places special demands on the therapist/psychologist, his qualifications and ability to simultaneously work with two opposing clients. To use the metaphor of Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, in which individual therapy is like “two friends walking in the park,” family therapy is like a “dinner party,” but the couples therapist finds himself in a situation where two people are rushing at him from both sides. "furious" locomotive. Not all therapists can stop speeding cars, so they may suggest moving from a paired format to an individual format, in which a therapeutic alliance is established more easily and quickly. In couples therapy, the “territory of thinking” for the other is reduced, you can turn around and see how he reacts to words, actions, you can ask what is happening to him in these moments and see the other sincere and open, vulnerable and sensitive. Sometimes, what a partner actually thinks and feels is radically different from what the other assumes. A qualified couples therapist will create a safe space for both, he perceives the couple as a single whole, in which both parts are equal and wounded, but really want to come to an agreement , restore their integrity, find peace and trust, because they have no one else closer and dearer than each other! I invite those who want to restore relationships, trust, and love to couples therapy. Sign up for a consultation hereTelegram channel https://t.me/psychologebas