Official data is horrifying, 70 percent of women have experienced some form of violence (psychological, sexual, physical and/or economic), and 36 percent of women have experienced physical and psychological violence. The question immediately arises How not to add to their number? Violence exists in those unions where one of the partners realizes his needs to the detriment of the needs of the other and in the vast majority of cases the role of the victim is occupied by a woman. Initially, the desire for self-sacrifice is characteristic of women, usually somewhere in the depths of their souls there is a hope that they will one day be rewarded for all their suffering, but the situation only gets worse over time. One constantly criticizes, the second dictates his terms, and the third does not accept anything at all except for your opinion... Or maybe at first it will just be a stormy showdown, aggressive expression of beliefs, active interference in other people's affairs or excessive persistence. This behavior is typical of aggressors, but it can manifest itself in different ways, but the result is generally the same: the woman feels weak, helpless, unable to be responsible for her life. Why do lovely ladies so easily fall into this trap? The trap is that very often this at first glance, very charming and charismatic men who try to make the most favorable impression. There may be an unrealistic gap between the created image and reality. Such men usually manifest themselves quite brightly at the beginning of a relationship, this can manifest themselves in: - surrounded by constant care and attention, he makes the woman feel “that only with him she is completely safe and nothing threatens her.” This also includes broad gestures (huge bouquets, loud declarations of ardent and passionate love at the very beginning of a relationship, promises of an eternal fairy tale, and that this must have happened to him for the first time). - he has a specific plan for the development of events and he knows exactly how everything should be, relationships move strictly according to his predetermined scenario, many girls fall into this trap “you don’t have to think about anything, how nice it is that everything has already been decided for you.” - more often this is the rapid development of relationships, a quick transition to living together or marriage, so that the victim does not have time to reflect on what is happening. - when something begins to get out of his control, his face immediately changes; it is difficult for such a person to control his emotions (facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice). The most important signals: 1. Disrespectful attitude (does not accept your opinion, may even laugh at it, constantly makes fun of you, interrupts, does not allow you to speak out especially in the presence of other people, does not respond to comments or does not even understand why you might be dissatisfied).2. Imposing one’s opinion (at first in clothes, make-up, later this goes on to loved ones - condemnation and caustic remarks to relatives, unflattering statements about friends, indicating who you should not communicate with. After all, his opinion is the only correct one and you should be completely under his influence).3. Control (daily meetings, frequent phone calls to find out whereabouts, visits as if on the road, and when the call is not answered, a series of missed calls follows and all this is presented as strong feelings and concern. Such a person quickly invades personal space and tries to completely fill in with yourself “we are a couple and should do everything together”).4. Jealousy (“Vasya doesn’t look at you that way”, often even towards service personnel and especially towards girlfriends, pointing out their negative qualities; he knows exactly how a decent girl, his future wife, should behave; this includes persistent inquiries about exes ).5. He is rude to others, does not accept other points of view, is unlikely to remain silent if he is cut off on the road, cannot react calmly and judiciously, will be happy to defend your honor, but will only be happy to fight. And all this will be presented as unearthly love “he doesn’t!