If we paraphrase the Buddhist wisdom “Any opportunity is the best opportunity,” then we can say: “Any relationship is the best relationship.” After all, it is communication with other people that gives us the opportunity to show our best qualities, to be open and friendly. When we consistently and calmly defend our point of view, empathize and accept others as they are, we feel peace and confidence. This style of interaction strengthens our self-esteem and at the same time gives the opponent the opportunity to show his best side. When we are distrustful, vindictive, and aggressive, we poison the lives of not only those to whom our feelings are directed, but also ourselves. After all, negative emotions affect our mental and physical balance, which is confirmed by research by psychiatrists. How can we learn to show our best sides? How can we master the ability to control our emotions in interactions with people around us and show insight in assessing situations and the intricacies of human relationships? How to use your abilities to convince, guide, coordinate positions and smooth out contradictions in order to establish cooperation and inspire colleagues? And what is included in the concept of sociability? Sociability is one of the main personal qualities necessary for a person in the modern world. A sociable person, as a rule, has the ability to win over his interlocutor during the communication process, has good control of himself and his voice. Using various psychological techniques, he is able to hold the attention of his opponent and recognize his reaction to certain questions by intonation, and change his line of behavior in time in order to be on the same wavelength with him. In developing our communication skills, it is important to learn to recognize the psychological defense mechanisms that we unconsciously resort to in order to protect ourselves from unpleasant experiences, mental pain or anxiety. To do this, you need to go through the following stages on the path to liberation .1. Determine what role you play. Are you always ready to help and comfort those who need it? Or maybe you feel rejected and abandoned? In order to feel the attention and support of others, we, often without knowing it, play some role, which affects the style of our relationships with other people - they become sketchy, stereotypical and, of course, do not bring satisfaction. 2. Reclaim your projections. Your boss is a slacker, your spouse is stingy and greedy, your colleague is a greedy careerist. Perhaps these assumptions have a basis, but it may also be that you are projecting your fears or desires onto others, attributing to them behavior or character traits that are characteristic of you and unacceptable for you. As long as you believe that everything unpleasant, indecent, and shameful exists only in others, you will not be able to know the joy of real human relationships. Taking responsibility for difficulties in communicating with other people is an important step towards ensuring that relationships begin to change and you feel more confident. Figure out what you are accused of: do you not want to notice something in yourself and project it onto others? It could be jealousy, envy, or a desire to control other people. Then try to understand what your participation in the relationship with this person is: perhaps your opponent’s aggressive behavior was a response to your aggression? Consider whether your demands on others are too high.3. Try to take action. The interlocutor can both inspire us and irritate us. A proposal for cooperation to be curious or, conversely, to leave us indifferent. Our reaction to what is happening is always spontaneous and involuntary and depends primarily on the emotions that we experience at the moment. This is why it so often has a negative impact on relationships and becomes a source of misunderstanding and resentment..