From the author: How to allow yourself to be sincere in your feelings? Well, first you need to at least understand them :) How to feel sincere interest in your interlocutor Balakhonskaya G.V. Audio version of the article here https://www.b17.ru/media/52535/ I, dear friends, recently wrote an article “Pleasure from communication with another is possible only if you treat yourself well." This article is about the fact that full communication with another person will only happen when both participants in this communication are sincerely interested in each other, and are not fixated on what they produce impression. For the simple reason that if we are immersed in our worries about our imperfection and in efforts to impress, then we are actually closed in on ourselves and we simply have no time for the other person with whom we are supposedly communicating. In this case, we think only about ourselves and it simply does not come to communication in the full sense of the word. And if both “interlocutors” are in this position (worried about their own ambitions and how to make a better impression), then it’s as if the other person is not there. Each on his own. There is also the expression “loneliness together.” Such a sad expression. Communication that gives pleasure occurs only when everyone treats themselves well and with respect. Therefore, they don’t need to worry about “what impression am I making” - they can transfer all their attention to an interesting interlocutor and enjoy live human contact. In general, my dear readers, if you wish, you can read the article itself in the original “Pleasure from communicating with others is possible only if you treat yourself well.” Why this long preamble, you may ask? :) But the fact is that in the comments to this article I was asked the question: “Perhaps then you could tell me how to feel sincere interest in the interlocutor?” And I promised to write about it. Actually, now I will try to answer exactly this question. Or rather, I will offer my version. Or rather, one of the versions :) And you, dear friends, if you want, you can add yours in the comments. I think it would be interesting! I will be grateful to you! Because each of us has our own unique experience and our own unique view of the world. And in communication we can enrich each other with our interesting and, sometimes, unexpected thoughts! :) And discover something new. So, how to feel sincere interest in your interlocutor? I would start with the fact that no one can be interested in everything in the world. Therefore, it is not worth trying to have a sincere interest in everything in the world. At the same time, each of us has something that is personally interesting to him. Here, genetic predisposition can have an effect, and family traditions, and characteristics of upbringing, and much more. But, most importantly, each of us has these interesting topics, interesting activities that make our eyes light up and our souls warm. And sometimes these are our sensory signals, our preferences hardwired at the instinctive level. As, for example, this happens in the relationship between a man and a woman. And people, accordingly, we are interested in those with whom we have many similarities. Sometimes it's obvious, and sometimes it's not so obvious. But something attracts us, even when we don't really understand what. We're just interested in this person. And we have a sincere interest in him. But the point may be that on a subconscious level we have prohibitions against being interested in what we are naturally inclined to do. For example, these could be parental guidelines about what a child should do in life. Let’s say a mother believes that her son should be a lawyer. Or a doctor. And my son has a talent as an artist. Or a cabinetmaker. But in the family, for example, this is considered nonsense. And the child is instructed to be interested in what is not interesting to him. He, say, diligently forces himself, but... His eyes don’t light up. And it doesn’t warm the soul. I, of course, gave a specific example for clarity, but I think it is clear that we are interested in what is actually interesting to us, and not in what “should”! Here are our people