IT IS COMMONLY ACCEPTED that approaching him first, talking to him, getting to know him, writing, coming up with a reason to meet him, etc., is a purely male affair. It’s a far less well-known fact that many guys, even those who make acquaintances easily and naturally, often secretly dream that the girl herself will become interested and be the first to take the initiative. We won’t delve into the reasons for this now. In a nutshell, these reasons look like this: “What can you do, dear ladies, men also need proof of their importance and attractiveness.” Can you imagine?! Therefore, MADAME, IF YOU LIKE A GUY, but he does not show his interest in any way, there is no need to be afraid to take the first step towards acquaintance. What bad could happen if you do this? After all, this is the Internet - it cannot hit you, bite you, or even laugh at you. The worst thing is a boorish answer. Well, for rednecks there is an ignore list and a blacklist. Moreover, if you are at least a little picky, this almost never happens. Even if he doesn’t see you as his potential girlfriend, he will definitely be interested, precisely because girls very rarely take the initiative themselves. Besides, he will be flattered, for the same reason. He will take your initiative personally, as proof of his importance (in part, this is true). And this is your trump card, dear ladies. SO, YOU HAVE DECIDED TO MAKE THE FIRST CONTACT. Where to begin? What to write in the first letter? It’s best to start with the word “hello” or “hello”. Phrases like “good afternoon...” or the absence of a greeting are immediately dismissed. Then everything is simple - look at what your “chosen one” writes on his page: diaries, statuses, blogs, news, music, videos... Choose what interests you (MANDATORY - something what interests you), and go ahead. Ask a question about the information you are interested in from his page. Something like: “hi, I also like the movie... Do you think the actor... played better in this film, or in...” Or: “Hello. I also really love nature and go there often. I really love being on the river. What are your favorite places in nature? Etc. You will find the options yourself. The main thing is that your first message does not sound like “fishing with a net.” Therefore, write, write about what interests him. This will show that you are interested in HIM, and not men in general. And, once again: write FROM THE SOUL - about what is interesting to you. IF THE CORRESPONDENCE GOES WELL, then proceed according to the same principle. Soon (by the way), ask him for his phone number (if he hasn’t already done so). In a telephone conversation, the principle is the same - Sincere interest (unless, of course, you still need some principles and methods). Of course, a man should OFFER A MEETING IN REAL. If he is shy and doesn’t dare, gently push him to take this step. Hints, randomly thrown thoughts... Well, you’re a Woman - you’ll come up with something. The main thing, even if the decision to meet was yours, is that he considers it his proposal. You understand why. I will speak in more detail about ONLINE DATING at the free online seminar “How to find your soul mate in order to live happily ever after” on Wednesday the 13th. To learn more about the seminar and register, FOLLOW THE LINK: expertsystem.in/launch/862/ (or paste the link into the address bar of your browser). Questions “how to behave and what to do at the first meeting?”, alas, are beyond the scope this article. More on that another time. And that’s all for today. Until next time.