Imagine this picture. You ask your now adult child to do something around the house or go to the store. But in response you hear from him: “I won’t go,” “I don’t want to.” Remember how you react to these words. Do you get annoyed, criticize, get angry with your child and demand that he do what you asked him to do?🤔‼️ If this is the case, then the main thing is to calm down, it’s not the end of the world. 👉 Next, switch yourself. For example, rub your earlobes. Try to put yourself in his place. How would you feel in his place, what feelings would you experience, how would you behave? What is the child’s reaction at this moment? He is offended, does not understand what is happening. “Why didn’t my mother ask me about this before and said that I I can’t cope when I wanted, I tried to do something the way I can? And now he demands to do something that I don’t even know how to do and don’t want to?” - the child thinks. There is conflict, resentment, and misunderstanding, coldness in relationships. The child's self-esteem drops, and the child does not even try to change. ⁉️ Why does he need this? After all, there is not even any motivation? Perhaps you began to accustom him to responsibilities from the wrong position. It’s better to start with the simplest requests. For example 👉 “Can I ask you to clear the dishes from the table, I don’t have time, and I need your help” Speak in simple phrases, don’t demand, but ask. The child does not owe you anything. 😉 He is your support and support, your assistant, not a “servant”. 🙏Household responsibilities help a child to be more independent, independent and understand that he is needed, that you cannot cope without him. 🔆Some tips:👍 Sit down at the table with your child, create some kind of family council;👍 You can even ask your husband to write down household chores together with the child. Let the child be the initiator of responsibilities. 👍 Draw up an “Agreement” between you and your child. And for motivation, ask “what would he like?” It often happens that a child wants to go somewhere with his parents or watch a movie together at home. 👍 Promise him that at the end of the week you will do what he wants.