Author: Vitaly Pichugin Source: http://www.nlplife.ru/ Women blame men: they leave their family, children, go to the young and beautiful. Men complain: girls need money and romantic “ snot,” so they go to rich and romantic sponsors. Everyone says that they are abandoned. Let's figure it out? Let's start with a metaphor. You travel on a tram, enjoy its amenities, soft seats, warmth, and safety. The tram is large and iron, and most importantly, it takes you where you need to go. You do not remain in debt, pay money for travel. Full consensus. But then we arrived, your stop, got out and went home. And the tram went its own way. Question: who abandoned whom? You go home, you know, another tram will arrive tomorrow, thank you for bringing me there. How many more of them will there be in life? But the tram has its own path, many people need it, other passengers are waiting for it. There are no complaints, everyone is happy. Why are there so many complaints from women if the man left for another or simply left? Although, if to another, then it’s more offensive. Why are men unhappy if a woman decides that a better man has been found for her? Or are you the very... Couldn’t it be better? I’ll explain it in the framework of an entertaining “sacrifice.” A victim is a position of perception of reality and an assessment of an event, as well as a certain state. A woman is a victim. “He left me, destroyed my family, left a child, went to some kind of “myr” .The state at these words should be depressed, there should be unhappiness in the eyes, hands down, shoulders hunched and, of course, tears, as the main proof of the correct assessment of his actions: “Well, just a scoundrel!” The man is assessed as a source of misfortune - a persecutor. And the victim demonstrates his condition in the hope of finding a savior who will listen, support, sympathize and confirm: “Yes, your ex is a complete bastard.” This is the victim’s favorite pastime – finding “deliverers”. The main thing is to have free ears to drain your experiences. The “Savior”, in fact, cannot save the victim from suffering. Why? The victim will not allow it. She doesn't need it. Try to advise starting to live in a new way, building your life joyfully and happily, thanking your ex-man for what happened, focusing on what will happen to another worthy person. There is a chance from the “savior” to join the “persecutor”, to be accused of callousness, rudeness, misunderstanding. As a rule, women are more talented in playing the role of a victim of circumstances and various insidious men. Probably, from childhood, young ladies watch more TV series, read romance novels, where the main character must be a victim. The role is learned, absorbed, and easily included. After this, some women almost never turn it off. And what about men? A man is a victim. If a girl leaves him, then she is a fool, hysterical and, in general, a young lady of very easy virtue, which is usually formulated in short. If a man starts drinking, then it is out of grief. The victim finds a deliverer in the form of alcohol. The role of ears for draining experiences is performed by drinking buddies. You can also start a showdown with a new young man, or, alternatively, with an ex-girlfriend. Since the brain is disturbed by alcohol and suffering, the victim relieves himself of the responsibility to think and be responsible for the consequences of his actions. “They” are to blame, they must be punished. Hence the fights, stabbings, murders out of great and pure love, as well as the restoration of justice: “so no one will get you!” There are many men in prison - “victims” who killed their former life partners. We can say that men easily move from the role of victim to persecutor, after which they again become victims. The circle closes. Behind the “victim” position is usually the habit of blaming responsibility on an unfair life, people around and the absence of the habit of thinking, which has a greater internal benefit. If someone is to blame, then I am right and am not responsible for anything. One can only feel sorry and sympathize with the “victim”. And whoever is against it is a scoundrel! Therefore, everyone who is disliked by the “victim” - who? Men who abandoned their wives, destroyed their family, etc., and.