Mom, this is not mine, but I will save you! I'll take it for myself! So that you can cope! Because I love you so much! I'll die without you. And so I take away your pain. When a mother’s pain is too great, her little child takes on just as much as the mother is unable to digest and process. This happens because mother and child are communicating vessels. One has left, the other has arrived. The child is in contact with his mother, for whom something is intolerable. Pain, betrayal, violence, divorce or loneliness. When it's too much for one person, it overflows. And the child absorbs it. Such unchildish feelings, such unchildish reality. To save your mother. This is not his conscious choice, it is nature. This is a connection that we do not see, but we never doubt that it exists. But even a child cannot digest and process it. He has not developed these mechanisms. And then it happens. Crowding out. And storing this pain in the body or in the subconscious. Which then affects his entire adult life. In the systems approach, such a phenomenon is called system dynamics. When overstrain occurs in one family system, it comes out through less protected and fortified places. In this case, this is her little child. Then, this person grows up already having experience in something. But he is terrible, negative, painful. And it’s not his, he took it for himself, saving his mother. True, he only finds out about this when he comes to therapy, with a desire to figure out why something isn’t working out for him. In relationships, at work, with money or with yourself. If you sometimes wonder if you have something blocking your life, think about whether it could be your story or whether it is something from the outside. Maybe it’s time to take it out and process it, separating yourself from experiences that are not yours. You are no longer a child and you can definitely handle this. And if you are a parent, then try to digest and live absolutely all your feelings on your own so that your children don’t have to do this.