According to statistics, every 5th girl and every 13th boy experiences harassment. This means that knowledge of how to keep your child safe will be relevant to everyone who has children. Image from Freepik In a previous article (which can be found on B17 among my other publications), I shared my “inside” view on the topic of sexualized violence. If you describe the portrait victims, then you can find the following traits there: the inability to say “no”, the idea of ​​​​obeying elders - a convenient child; the taboo topic of “sex” at home - if it is not customary to talk about puberty in the house, who should I go to if I was a witness or participant harassment?an emotionally cold parent - when a child cannot trust, his feelings are rejected, or it is not customary to talk about feelings in the family. How can I help a child become less vulnerable in this topic? The basis of everything is a trusting relationship. When I know that in any case the parent will be on my side, “they won’t give me up, they won’t throw me away.” Whether it’s a teacher who publicly scolds a child, a security guard in a store, or a situation without third parties where the child “messed up” - by remaining on the child’s side, the parent greatly increases the “credit of trust.”2. Answer questions openly about sex, genitals, and other bodily topics when your child has them. Books on sex education will be just right here. One of my favorites is “Let’s talk about this.” When a child knows the real names of the genitals, it is more difficult to seduce him; and he understands that there is nothing shameful in an intimate topic - that means “I can talk about it.”3. Discuss the “Pantie Rule” (or swimsuit rule): those parts of the body that we in this area are not allowed to show and no one has the right to touch. You can discuss “good” and “bad” touches. If someone touches you in such a way that it becomes unpleasant, this is a reason to tell your parent.4. The 3-step rule on how to get out of an unpleasant situation: say “no” - leave - tell. It is very important that the child not only knows that there are dangers in the world. But he also had an understanding of “what to do if.” If I have an understanding of the plan of action in case of trash, it greatly increases my internal security. Books relevant to this topic include Petranovskaya’s “What to do if” and “What to do if 2.”5. Sometimes the person committing the harassment forces the child to remain silent. Or the child himself is embarrassed to speak. It is important to convey that there are “bad secrets” - those that make you anxious and tighten your heart; which you want to tell, but are scared. It is important to share such secrets so that the parent can help.6. Well, the last thing, probably the most important, without which all of the above makes no sense - TRUST THE CHILD! Without accusation and shame - if he did exactly that, then there was no other opportunity on those resources. I want to share a cool and useful project “WILL BE BELIEVE YOU” - it is relevant both to parents and survivors of sexualized violence: verimtebe.ru