“How to communicate with people and why?” You can ask yourself this question if you feel awkward when communicating, if words get stuck in your throat, everything seems meaningless. If the interlocutor’s answers are known in advance. You know that the interlocutors do not share your interests and live differently. But at the same time, being alone seems wrong, because everyone communicates with each other, then why is this not the case for me? Let’s try to explore this from the perspective of human needs and relationships.People lead a collective lifestyle. Throughout our lives, we are in different groups. The first group is the family, here we receive care, attention, satisfy our needs, receive recognition. The next group is the school and the group of classmates. In the new group, a certain place is occupied and everyone strives to satisfy their needs. Growing up the importance of the family as a group fades into the background (from 10-12 years old). In adolescence, separation from parents begins. People not from the family, but friends, acquaintances, and other popular personalities become authorities. And here, when a new group is formed, the need to become part of it. But there is no experience of how to become a member of a new expanded group. Young people in communication can be very tough, inconsistent, and cold. Often this is because they themselves can hardly express their thoughts. And what they express does not turn out right as they would like. For example, if a boy likes a girl, then in rare cases he will tell her about it. Since the group of “Boys” can then exclude him with ridicule. As a result, the first awkward advances and attention sometimes turn into aggressive jokes. Let's return to the question of how to communicate with people and why? Sociologists identify basic needs among people. Among such needs they note: the desire to feel belonging to a group, the need for respect, the need for self-expression. Sociologists at different periods of history in different countries have identified their own variants of needs, but most of which were related to the above. A growing personality, who is quite satisfied with himself, suddenly experiences an internal conflict. How to overcome this conflict? In the family, self-determination of the individual - the formation of an idea of ​​who we are occurs as a result of the parent’s assessment of the child. In a new group, for example, in a school or other group, which at a certain age becomes more significant compared to the family, such an idea is formed based on the assessment of the surrounding people from a close group. And if this group does not show interest or shows aggression, cold detachment, then excitement, fear, and disorientation arise. Young people who have no experience in developing relationships in a new group are wondering how to build such relationships? If we remember basic needs of each person, then it will be clear that each member of the group has such needs and satisfies them by taking his place in this group. With the desire to experience belonging to a group, it is clear that this need is satisfied when a person considers himself accepted by the collective or group. The need for respect and self-expression are precisely those needs that are satisfied in the process of communication. Have you ever noticed that in a conversation with an interlocutor he spoke, but you were unable to insert a word into the conversation, and at the end of the monologue, you were called an excellent interlocutor with who are very interested. People really love praise or a good assessment in the eyes of loved ones, and if they receive it, then they satisfy the need for respect. I hope that I was able to clearly imagine why people feel the need to communicate with each other. How to solve problems in communication? First, the reasons that interfere with communication are identified .– this is shyness, uncertainty;– copying the forms of behavior of parents when communicating;– the presence of too narrow a circle of friends; The reasons are discussed, studied, the objectivity of the reasons is considered. Then work is carried out to improve communication and learn to conduct a dialogue. It turns out that this can be learned,