Answering the question about first intimacy, I would pose the task: How to avoid disappointments and remain satisfied with the relationship in any case? I suggest observing the FIVE CONDITIONS OF THE ECOLOGY OF RELATIONSHIPS: 1. Coordinate goals and agree on the shore Initially, before “entering the river,” it is worth agreeing on intentions. The “how it goes” model is too risky for disappointments and misunderstandings. Determine your goals for your current relationship and for the future. What are you signing up for? Are casual relationships acceptable when you can date others at the same time? What is treason? What is this for each of you. And you shouldn’t create the illusion that your goodness or uniqueness will change other people’s beliefs or goals. The good news is that at some stage you can change your decisions at any time. But this will be a new agreement without frustration. You and your partner will make decisions together. Only then will you be able to avoid disappointments, flashbacks of psychological trauma, feelings of betrayal, resentment or misunderstanding. But the most important thing is that there will be no reason to scold yourself, which is the most destructive thing for self-esteem and the formation of future relationships.2. Independence from anyone's reactions and opinions This means not following the instructions and guidelines of authorities, relatives or friends. Who said they were right? And are they really happy? Allow yourself to enjoy life and enjoy intimacy. Everything is natural, valuable and divine if you choose what you want and treat it that way.3. Careful with roles The happiest and most fulfilling relationships are when for a woman, a man is the totality of everything masculine. First of all, this is a husband and partner. But sometimes, this does not exclude the role of father, son, friend, passionate lover, respected father of children. The same goes for men in relationships with women. A woman can be a mother of children, a housewife, a friend, a daughter, a lover. In order not to be disappointed, you need to carefully build your roles. Especially "relatives". Learn to change or remove them on occasion. So that you don’t want to go “to the left” or so that you don’t feel losses or painful attachments later.4. Self-worth It is important, especially for ladies, to feel your worth in a relationship. Therefore, it is worth asking yourself - not for someone, but first of all, how will I feel valuable and desired for myself. For men, it may be useful to answer yourself - how, regardless of someone else’s reaction, I will be pleased with myself as a man. And don't be surprised if the answers aren't always about sex.5. Gratitude for everything It is impossible to foresee everything. Even just based on psychosexual or physical compatibility. It is also impossible to trust another person 100%. You don't even have to try. This is his world and value system. If something goes wrong, it is better to thank you for your discovery and understanding. Now you can choose what suits you best. And choose what to do next. Find the benefits of this particular experience. Don't look for the guilty! And don't stop. But just choose what you want and move on with your life. These 5 rules will help you not be afraid to enjoy life, and will remove barriers to full-fledged and healthy relationships. Well, it’s worth considering the facts that diseases can be transmitted through sexual contact and that through intercourse you get children ;) Finally, I’ll give you a secret 🎁There may be such a response to an offer of sex in order to avoid embarrassment, resentment at refusal or inappropriate reactions: “Great idea. Definitely! Only you should be interesting to me, so first I want get to know you." Enchanting and valuable intimacy to you. Hugs!