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“I have no goals”, “I don’t know what I want”, “It feels like I’m living someone else’s life”, “In the morning I don’t want to get up and go to work “... A common situation for our time, isn’t it? Why do we lose our meaning, our direction? Why do we agree to “someone else’s”? Just yesterday I watched how one young mother interacted with her child. The baby is mobile, active, inquisitive. Either he will approach the closet or become interested in a flower. In response to this, his mother grabbed him in her arms and chirped: “Well, where did you go! Why do you need a closet? Here, take the phone, look how interesting it is!” The child actively rejected the phone, roared, and rushed to the closet, but everything was in vain. Then the kid had to become interested in the phone. I can imagine how the situation will develop further. The baby will grow up and want to play football, for example. But let’s imagine that it will be inconvenient for his mother to take him to football or she will decide that this is fraught with injuries, the art school is close to home, and she liked it as a child. And it may happen that the baby does not have enough strength to resist; he has, in principle, already been taught to be interested in what his mother likes. You will have to become “interested” in art school. Then a profession that mom will approve of, and so on. And then our baby will sit in an office chair, depressed and not be able to understand: he wants tea or coffee. I understand that the example is somewhat exaggerated, but this is often how it all begins. If a child does not have permission to choose his own, follow his own interests, eat the food he likes, choose a hobby to taste, then where does the ability to choose his person or profession to his liking come from? Oddly enough, to feel what he wants in serious and significant areas, you need to start from “childhood”, from the simple. So to speak, to revive sensitivity to oneself or, in psychological terms, to work with the boundaries of oneself, to separate “one’s own” from “someone else’s.” First of all, you need to focus on sensations, drawing attention away from the usual assessments of your smart head. It is the head, guided by the childish principle of “obeying mother,” that leads us astray. That is why you need to start with simple, not significant things. In significant things, it will be much more difficult to disconnect from your head, where the price of the issue is higher. So, the task is to conduct a study of your feelings, to explore the likes and dislikes of your “organism”, not your head. A great start is to notice what kind of food you like, slow down while eating, drinking tea, be present in your feelings, explore new aromas - such as perfume, tea or coffee, trying on clothes, choosing things for the work day - listen not to the usual “stylish, correct, fashionable,” and whether the color, texture, mood of a particular outfit is pleasant. Stop and notice which people are comfortable with and which people are not. When a basic level of sensitivity to oneself has been developed, on the one hand, the presence of a “stranger” in life (work, for example) will be felt more acutely, but bright ideas about other professional areas will also begin to occur, the right people will begin to meet, and interesting offers will come. The main thing is to take your time and work on your readiness to accept “yours.””.