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All people can experience loneliness to varying degrees at different times in their lives. In the modern world, despite the fast pace of life and its eventfulness, the presence of a large number of people around, we often feel lonely inside and experience sadness and disappointment because of this. Loneliness can be felt especially acutely and severely in old age, when grown-up children live their own separate lives, a spouse may no longer be around, the circle of friends narrows, and a person remains exclusively in his own society. The current events in the world related to the global Covid-19 pandemic are forcing each of us to turn to the topic of loneliness and think about how to cope with this feeling while we are forced to stay at home more and limit our meetings with loved ones. To begin with, it’s worth understand the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Can we feel loneliness when there are people nearby? Is it possible to be alone with yourself and not experience feelings of loneliness? Austrian psychologist and psychotherapist, Alfried Längle, believes that loneliness is felt where there is a lack of contact in a relationship, both with another person and with oneself. For example, when we have met another person, but we do not have the opportunity to talk about “me” and “you”, about what is in our hearts, about what really worries us, about our feelings. It is important for a person to know what another person is going through, what he is thinking about, what he is doing. With this knowledge, the understanding between people that we all strive for can be achieved. Since a person is a social being, located in society, he needs relationships and a feeling of connectedness and community with other people. And the breakdown or insufficient connections with loved ones, with beloved animals and even with things can be accompanied by feelings of grief, loss, abandonment and loneliness. That is, loneliness is caused by the lack of quality relationships with people and with oneself, or a disruption in the functioning of these relationships. There is a possibility of experiencing your loss and loneliness, even being in the family circle. However, you can feel happy in solitude if you learn to communicate with yourself. Thus, we can conclude that the recipe for loneliness can be building rich, full, real relationships with the people around you and with yourself. A. Langle describes the components that make up a full-fledged contact between two people. He calls this process, in which each of the participants has the opportunity to be seen and understood, a “meeting”: The basis of good contact is respectful attention towards the interlocutor and the feeling that the communication partner mutually respects you. The next step is to treat each other fairly friend, when both people respect the boundaries of the other and take the interlocutor seriously. And the final part is the recognition of the value of the person with whom communication is taking place through the designation of what you like in his words and manifestations. Existing good and kind relationships, what is with us happened in them, is preserved in our memories and continues to exist in us. Thus, fulfilling relationships in the past can be a source of happiness for us when we are alone. And it is also important to feel good in moments of solitude, when there is no opportunity to be with other people, to be in a real relationship with ourselves. An important element in building such relationships is learning to conduct an internal dialogue, to talk to yourself. This means that a person needs to learn to listen to what arises in him, and treat it seriously and with respect, not throw away his thoughts, feelings and experiences, allow them to unfold and exist. Openness to oneself - one's desires, fears, anxieties, joys and pains - allows a person to see and hear.34-59.