Psychologists often hear the phrase: “I’m abnormal,” “I react this way—it’s not normal,” “Is this normal in general?” And other variations of worries about one’s normality. Of course, there are clinical concepts of norms from major psychiatry (such chronic diseases as schizophrenia, bipolar affective disorder and epilepsy). And then, they are often very vague and it is not so easy to make a diagnosis. But now I’m talking about other problems from which no one is immune. My main work is working with mood disorders (anxiety disorders, depression, panic disorders, etc. ). So, the enormous pain of people who are faced with such conditions is the feeling that they are abnormal, not like everyone else, that they are sick, unhealthy. And if you look at it, what gives them the greatest pain is not even the constant anxiety itself, for example, or the absence strength and mood during depression. And the fact that they feel terrible loneliness and some kind of wrongness. Everyone is normal, but I’m not. We ourselves come up with some kind of “norms” and “abnormalities”, and then we ourselves suffer from them. Moreover, it is precisely these “abnormalities” that drive ourselves into many anxiety disorders. Well, for example, a person with social anxiety. He experiences discomfort when communicating with other people. Yes, he experiences anxiety (for his own reasons, which can be learned in therapy), and physical discomfort. But this becomes a problem (and a disorder) only when he begins to consider it an ABNORMAL - and begins to try to get rid of it. .That is, the problem is not in the anxiety itself, but in the feeling that he feels it incorrectly, he should not feel it, he is not like everyone else. But if you observe what thoughts a person has in his head, what past experience he has, his makeup character, peculiarities of the nervous system - then it is absolutely NORMAL to experience anxiety in such situations! IT IS NORMAL to remain silent in a company where everyone communicates NORMAL to be afraid of what others are not afraid of there is no strength, even if you did nothing (outwardly) NORMAL to be angry at those you love NORMAL to be sad even when everyone is having fun NORMAL to feel anxious and not understand why NORMAL to not want/want what others want NORMAL to be weak NORMAL to enjoy little things when the whole world collapses IT'S NORMAL to cry, scream, be sad, be angry, envy, not want to communicate, be alone/ NOT be alone..... EVERYTHING IS NORMAL!!!!!!!! I can list it endlessly. While I was writing this article, an idea came to mind - upon completion of therapy, send the client a commemorative T-shirt with the inscription: SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN - It`s OK not to be OK I will be glad to help you. To sign up for a consultation, click on the Get a consultation button or write to Tg