The easiest way to understand a violation of boundaries is to rely on the speech and meaning of the Message. How to recognize a violation of boundaries in speech? What to pay attention to? Every word and sentence makes an impression in a sensory response, metaphorical images are beautiful in their form, their poison reaches the mind much later with an aftertaste of disgust, so excessive compliments are cloyingly sickening and do not bring joy. Emotional boundaries are hurt: words do not leave indifferent, I feel a violent outburst of emotions, I withdraw into myself and want to stop communicating, the feeling that the message was sent to me personally, there was no way to distance myself, I am being drawn into an emotional altercation. Personal boundaries are affected: generalization, objectification, use of a third person, pure facts and statements of facts about me, you Messages (get personal). With friends, psychologists treat without asking. They don’t listen to me: I tell something, in response they tell me a parallel story that has nothing to do with mine, a person on his own wavelength, the feeling that I’m talking to myself. When the style of interaction is disrupted: an epic about oneself as a great hero and about no one else, a lot of details fill everything and everyone, going into thoughtful, rationally wandering thoughts. Blurring of meaning: formal speech, indirect expressions and half-hints (yes, but; well, you understand) .Many more subtleties and nuances of boundaries through the prism of literary terms: The trap of epithets lies in their bright, richly colorful redundancy. “I love you so much! You look so lousy! You have sultry boobs! You can be “fooled” by bright phrases, but behind them there is an empty sound, or rudeness. An insulting metaphor takes you into the world of comparisons with anti-heroes, ugly features, unpleasant actions: “- You are darker than a cloud. Why so gloomy?! Like our boss after the weekend. You are so beautiful today, like Baba Yaga.” Comparison. Signs in speech: as, as if, as if, exactly. “Your mood is like yesterday’s tea. You're like a cowardly hare. Oh look! He's red like a lobster! Sly as a fox.” Personification. Compare people to inanimate objects. “You have a teapot instead of a head! Your eyes are like dead stars, just as dull and faded.” Metonymy is the transfer of a name from one object to another based on contiguity. In our case, we can say it more simply - “click”, “drive”. “The door opened and red lips entered. This sweater has been telling me something for so long! When I approached the cafe, I saw Beard come out to meet me.” Periphrase. Like playing crocodile, highlight the essential features. A more subtle and graceful violation of boundaries. Dancing Heron is about a long-legged girl. A beautiful and graceful bun. “- These visuals are amazing creatures!” Allusion. A reference to another event, person, fact, phenomenon. More often there will be a violation of the boundaries of intellectual statements and judgments. “It’s blasphemy to mix psychology with esotericism!” Intertext is a beautiful insult. The relationship of one text to another, the dialogic interaction of texts and languages. The text is built from quotes. “- Honey, come on. Don't worry, be happy. So what will you do now? Will you go to Leningrad?” Hyperbole. Exaggeration. “I told you a thousand times! Shoulders the size of a house. I wait for ages (after waiting for five minutes). I’ll strangle you in my arms.” Litota is a replacement for the opposite, so as not to offend. But it still usually hurts. “Low - low. That tea you brought me... It’s not warm at all.” Irony. The meaning is hidden or contradicts the obvious. “Yes, you are a hero! (when assessing an unseemly act). I only think about you!” Irony usually in violation of boundaries is related to: appearance, social status, sexual themes, success. Repetition. “I repeat once again! I repeat for the last time!” Irritating to say the least. Living in constant repetition is easy to develop an inferiority complex. Gradation. Constant increase. “I’m worried, I think about you all the time, I’m crazy without you.