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Today I would like to write about how it can be unhelpful to share personal information with people who are prone to criticism. In my opinion, this is one of the most basic topics. Many people come asking that “something is wrong” with them. Someone says “rudely”, someone spends money on “unnecessary” things, someone is “wrong”. All these words are in quotation marks only because this assessment prevents them from moving forward. It is not their opinion, but it becomes their opinion when they agree with someone who thinks so. In fact, only the person who acts one way or another has clear reasons and the right to such behavior. Sometimes we cannot find arguments to justify ourselves “why I did this way” - this is just a lack of support. We all do things with meaning and for certain reasons. And if these reasons are not clear to us, then this is not a reason at all to believe that they do not exist at all. Every time we agree with another person’s assessment to our own detriment, we hurt ourselves. We abandon ourselves and it is very sad. I'm not talking about psychopaths, psychological pathologies, I'm talking specifically about everyday everyday matters. After all, when we analyze his similar problem in consultation, most often it is simply a lack of acceptance or support, understanding or sympathy. And it turns out that the problem arises where we give ourselves offense, we submit ourselves to be judged by another person who does not have the slightest idea about what path was taken before and what led to this or that situation. Because no one can understand themselves better than us. And if I don’t understand myself, don’t stand up for myself, don’t support myself in my actions, then I’m like a wounded animal - vulnerable to anyone with teeth. Don’t underestimate the influence of society. The human psyche is a very fragile thing and under the influence of the environment it sometimes breaks. Every word, information that we share with a person who sometimes criticizes can be a wound that will hurt for a long time and take a lot of strength. And if we're lucky, we'll get to a psychologist and patch her up.