Surely, many have experienced the feeling of a dead end in life, the lack of a way out of the current situation. Or they came to the conviction that, for example, they would never be able to recover from a difficult relationship or a serious diagnosis. Even if you were fired from your job or got a divorce, this is a signal to you that the time has come to start changing something in your life. Understand , at any given time YOU HAVE A CHOICE: either take a step forward towards change, or stay in your usual place. And no one has the right to force this choice on you, you must approach it yourself, because THIS LIFE BELONGES ONLY TO YOU. If you begin to convince yourself that “all efforts will be useless”, that “nothing depends on your decision” and “you can’t do anything about it” - this will ultimately lead to helplessness. And the dangerous side of such helplessness is PASSIVITY, that is: getting stuck in a traumatic cycle, putting up with external circumstances, feeling useless and not believing in your own strengths . Just lie on the couch, curl up, and look at the ceiling. And also feel sorry for yourself... When a person stops taking at least some action to overcome his psychotrauma, then dissatisfaction with life and negativity gradually begin to accumulate in his body. If you do not try to find a way out of this helplessness, then you can “go into illness”, alcohol or depression, which will be much more difficult to cope with. HOW TO HELP YOURSELF? 1. First and most importantly: a person can only save himself! Accept responsibility for your life, pull yourself together and start changing something.2. Accept your condition without judgment. This means: not to reconcile, but to recognize objective reality. If you continue to deny your current state, then it is simply wasting energy. Instead, focus your energy on what you can influence and let go of what you cannot influence.3. Stop seeing yourself as a victim of circumstances. Instead, identify a few of the most realistic actions you think will improve your situation. And today, start taking small steps consistently. This will give you a feeling of control over the situation.4. Don't be afraid to talk to yourself. Ask yourself the right questions: - “why did I find myself in this situation?” - “Where, perhaps, did I act/say/react incorrectly?” - “Can I change my attitude if I look at the problem from a different angle?” “Feel” yourself from all sides: body, thoughts, behavior. Such “discussions” will trigger new thoughts and emotions in you. And you will see real returns.5. Don't be shy about asking for advice. Sometimes life seems hopeless just because we are used to looking at one point. Very often it is a look from the other side that helps to find ways to solve a problem.6. Try in every way to feed the optimist in your head!!! Because a pessimist will feed himself. Be sure to praise yourself, appreciate your achievements (even if only you see them) and don’t dwell on your failures. Of course, change is not easy. Difficult. But probably! I am a doctor, candidate of medical sciences, oncologist, and I run a Telegram channel that will be useful to cancer patients and their relatives, as well as to everyone who is interested in how to support their immunity and maintain health. 👉 Go and subscribe to my Telegram channel ➡️link to channel