Each of us has such a friend. A person who, in principle, can do nothing and still remain the center of attention. I have always envied such people. It seemed like it was like being beautiful or tall: if you were unlucky at birth, there was no chance to catch up. To be honest, I can’t even give the word “charisma” an exact definition. What is this? Facial features? Character? Special attraction? I don't know, but I'm sure I can immediately tell a charismatic person from an ordinary one. Just like you. “I AM GOOD WITHOUT CHARISMA” - FORGET ABOUT THIS The main difference between charismatic people is that they can influence other people. And the latter will even like it. This is primarily useful at work and in business. Research and facts are not needed to confirm these words. Remember your attitude towards a friend or acquaintance who has charisma, and you will understand that all this is true. We often say that money is the main thing. Sometimes it turns out that connections with the right people become a priority. And charisma is a set of qualities that can get you connections. The good news is that you are not born with charisma. This is easy to check. Think of any person you consider charismatic. If you communicate with him more than once a week, you have noticed that his charisma is not always present. No one can be charismatic 24/7. This requires too much effort. In the book Leadership Development in Balance, Bruce Avolio provides many evidence of this. For example, Marilyn Monroe, who was simply gorgeous in public and whom everyone recognized. But for the sake of experimentation, she took the subway several times. And no one recognized her there. Why? Developing charisma is hard work. Many famous personalities have worked for a long time to fall into the category of charismatic. For example, Steve Jobs could not speak in public. His phrases sounded unconvincing, and his tone made you feel bored. After years of training, he developed charisma skills, becoming one of the examples for those who want to learn how to speak in public. CHARISMA IS REALLY BEING WHERE YOU ARE There are many ways to be charismatic. Charisma Myth author Olivia Caban says the easiest way is to truly be present where you are. This means listening to your interlocutor carefully and sincerely. If you do him this honor, you will be perceived as a charismatic person. The advice is quite difficult to implement. Genuinely empathizing with your interlocutor and listening carefully to him, even if you are not interested, is a difficult task. But this is the first obstacle separating a charismatic person from an ordinary one. An interesting American study has proven that we often think about things that have nothing to do with what is happening at the moment. And the only activity to which we devote ourselves completely is sex. But if you can be with your interlocutor here and now, in the moment, then this will already set you apart from the rest. People will feel your attention and that they are everything to you. At least for now. BASIC QUALITIES Man's survival as an individual has always been connected with other people. In an extreme situation, we must determine whether the person wants to help us and whether he can really do it. Therefore, a charismatic person must have two more skills: * Strength. * Willingness to help and warmth. We subconsciously consider people who combine kindness and strength to be positive and try to keep them as close as possible. It is the combination of these qualities that is important. Someone quite influential and strong may seem impressive, but not at all charismatic. An interesting case that proves this happened back in the 19th century. A British newspaper journalist had the opportunity to meet two candidates for the post of prime minister: William Gladstone and Benjamin Disraeli. Both candidates were considered influential, educated and strong people. After having lunch with both, the journalist came to the following conclusion: After lunch with Mr..