There is no ideal, there is something suitable. Each of us has our own set of limitations - something about which we talk: “this is not possible”, “this does not happen to me”, “me? Never!”, “no, I can’t do that.” I want to understand this phenomenon, I will be glad if you share your thoughts on the topic in the comments. Men cry less, although if you look at children of different sexes, they cry about the same. It's no secret that men are taught to limit their sensitivity, or rather, due to the impossibility and condemnation of showing feelings openly, the future man learns not only not to show feelings, but also, as a result, reduces the possibility of recognizing them. Such attitudes, imposed from the outside and learned “as is” without critical reflection, are called introjects. In this case, the effect of such suggestion does not appear immediately. Nevertheless, by adolescence, boys sincerely believe that their lack of tears is one of the main manifestations of masculinity. In women, on the contrary, having less prohibition on open expression of feelings, they recognize shades more easily, express them more easily and live longer. But this is just an example of such introjected restrictions, but it is a massive and very vivid example. If we talk about limitations, we can highlight objective physical ones, which, it seems to me, when we are talking about children, are not so much limitations as development trends. If a child shows an inclination towards something specific, then, as a rule, it is developed, that is, they follow the path of least resistance and greatest benefit or, if you like, efficiency. I do not undertake to consider old age - a time of restrictions, according to the majority, but various examples from life show that not everything is so simple there. And there are active old people who play sports, master new technologies and keep up with the times. It’s difficult for me to talk about the limitations caused by the disease, although my life developed in such a way that immediately after graduating from college I began working with disabled children and worked with them for more than 10 years. I believe that every parent has their own sincere reasons for limiting their child in something. But I saw a visually impaired guy who couldn’t do one push-up during physical education and a guy of the same age with right-sided hemiparesis who did 15 push-ups on one healthy arm. Paralympic athletes can also be a good example here, when missing body parts, which are essentially the most serious limitations, cease to be them. Otherwise, we learn our limitations from our environment. An example described in the literature as “learned helplessness” can confirm this statement. To put it very simply and briefly, the dogs were shocked and could not escape from the cage. After some time, the cages were opened, but the dogs did not try to escape, but lay down on the floor and whined while continuing to endure the electric shocks. Thus, we are taught our limitations and sometimes it is impossible to even entertain the thought of doing anything towards the limitation. To be fair, it must be said that for the most part people notice them and somehow deal with them, some accept them, while others fight them. But not all restrictions are equally noticeable. One of my clients, no matter how funny it may sound, was told by a fortune teller that he would work a lot and never earn much. Apparently the seed of this “prophecy” fell on fairly well-prepared soil by parental examples, and the fortune teller was authoritative. And now a young, truly talented man sincerely believes that he is doomed to work hard and his bosses will never agree to raise his wages. Moreover, loyalty on the part of the authorities is not noticed, filtered through the existing restriction as if through a sieve and discarded as impossible. This is how restrictions introjected by the environment work; sometimes they transform in quite interesting ways in the course of life.!»