Good morning, dear friends! I want to share with you how to use your feelings, or more correctly, emotions, when working with a client. We will talk primarily about the psychologist, and not about the client. Let me remind you that according to one of the popular classifications, which I adhere to, there are seven basic emotions. These emotions are joy, surprise, sadness, anger, disgust, contempt and fear. I also add shame here. And so, all these emotions, of course, can and do arise in a psychologist while working with a client. And they can be used in work. Not everyone knows about this, and those who know do not always correctly understand how it should be done. Sometimes it happens that if a psychologist experiences joy, he rejoices; if he is angry, he expresses his anger to the client, and so on. Yes, sometimes, apparently, it is useful to do so. By the way, I suggest you think and share in what situations this can really be useful! But still, it would be more correct in most cases to call such a reaction “reacting” and admit that this is not very useful for work. After all, our goal in our work is not just to do something (this applies to both the client and the psychologist), but first of all, to understand what is happening, why and why. After all, simply by expressing some feeling, some emotion, we do not help the client understand what he is doing, how he builds contact with another person, how he lives in general. If we just get angry at him, for example (if such an emotion arises in us), we will not help him much. It is better to simply indicate that such and such emotions arise in response to such and such manifestations or actions of the client, and figure out what why the client is doing this, why exactly. Then he will be able to take something useful for himself, understand or express something, feel something. We do not push away the client, for example, when the emotion of anger arises in us, but we maintain our disposition towards him, contact with him, when we simply name our emotions, we offer to sort it out, to look at the noticed phenomenon from different sides. Well, you don’t always have to deal with something right away; first, you can see if this is some kind of stable presentation of yourself by the client in contact. Those. if every time you communicate with him the same emotion arises, then you can already talk about it, start to figure it out. Of course, something like this “one-off” can be noted and analyzed, it’s just important to understand how important and useful it can be for work, and whether such analysis will distract attention from something more important that is happening now. Of course, it may not be easy to notice all this right away, to separate one from the other. This will be helped by experience, study and supervision. Emotions can be not just a response to some manifestations of the client, but also reflect his own experiences, which can serve to better understand him, and this understanding can be used in work. For example, if we feel sad for some reason when communicating with a client, then he probably feels sad too. Here you can understand how the client builds his life, what happens to him, how he reacts to what, etc. And it is also important to realize whether the emotions that constantly arise in us are not just a consequence of some of our unprocessed problems, our not enough a good understanding of ourselves and what is happening to us. Perhaps all this has nothing to do with the client. In the end, I would like to add that good contact between the client and the psychologist is in itself healing. When it is there, then sincere, trusting, deep interpersonal communication occurs, in which there is a place for our free presentation of ourselves, our thoughts, emotions, in which we are not two separate people, but as something united at such moments, we are carried away our dialogue, there is only our dialogue. Good work to you!