According to my observations, the vast majority of people who seek help from a psychotherapist do not have the slightest understanding of what psychotherapy is. In their heads there is a mess of “working through the mother”, “forgive and let go of the past”, “be grateful”, other information junk from social networks, and a vague expectation that the therapist will somehow help them. Therefore, I decided to clarify a little the essence of psychotherapy in my articles. In one case, I describe psychotherapy as a dynamic process, a process in development, stages (see previous article), in this case psychotherapy as a model. Why do specialists insist on therapy, on regular contact with a therapist over a long time? Why can't you just read the book you want? Why can’t you help yourself qualitatively? Because the human psyche is formed/disturbed IN INTERACTION with others. Not a single person was formed independently, alone. Everyone is the result of intense contact with significant loved ones. This is why it is important to return to this assemblage point - into interaction. What is psychotherapy? This is an artificial model of emotional intimacy with a significant other, which is implanted into the psyche to introduce new, beneficial data. That is, the psyche must literally be forced to believe in something good. And at the very beginning, this task looks ridiculous and impossible. How can a complete stranger, for whom there are no feelings or emotions, occupy such a significant place that it will displace the images of the parents? That contact with him will become so important that it will change a person’s opinion about himself? Surprisingly, this happens. Through painstaking persistent efforts, the therapist forms his significance and gradually builds an emotional connection with the client. Through sincere, constant, undying interest in the client’s life, through acceptance of the person in any of his states (and in the weakest, most destroyed, unsightly), through respect for his feelings and desires, the VALUE of a person is formed in the therapeutic process. The person is reassembled, now as VALUABLE and WHOLE, without splitting off individual unwanted parts, as parents do. Creating / restoring a sense of self-worth and reducing the degree of distrust in the world, which are formed through successful contact with the therapist and are, in my opinion, the main achievements of depth therapy. ***************More interesting and useful information on the topic of psychology and psychoanalysis on my Telegram channel: https://t.me/stashkova_psychoanalysta and also on the VK page: https://vk .com/stashkova_psychoanalyst