The topic of toxic parents evokes conflicting feelings in many people - from stoic defense to complete rejection and expressed aggression. For some time now I have become curious about the comments under articles from our resource. In the wake of hate, completely unfounded, as in relation to me or my colleagues, under a number of articles you can see the number of dissatisfied people condemning the study of parent-child relationships. “The children themselves are to blame for everything!” “Children should help their parents” “And what You are a psychologist if you write such things!” and a lot of other destructive and sad things (this is about me and articles about sexual provocations of parents, vulgarity in family education, etc.). Probably, I should coordinate this with a separate group of readers. And yet, the problem of toxic parents, as well as toxic upbringing, exists and requires a prompt solution. Alas, reading the news of the Lower Volga region, where I come from, receiving information from Volgograd and Astrakhan, as well as By following the news within the country, every now and then I learn about tragedies, completed suicides on the part of teenagers and young people. And if twenty years ago, unhappy love was accompanied by suicidal behavior, now this factor takes last place. And problems of existential crisis come first. conflict with both parents and peers, aestheticization and romanticization of death. In just a week, several young people between the ages of 16 and 19 committed suicide in Astrakhan and Volgograd. In most cases, the cause was a conflict with parents. The topic of suicide is largely taboo. Everyone understands that it takes place, but ethical issues often influence the coverage of a particular tragedy in the media. What I pay attention to when working with teenagers and young people1. Self-esteem2. Attitude to the world, to society3. Level of satisfaction of his basic needs4. Level of communication skills5. Interests, spheres of influence (who and what influences him is authoritative) To my horror, adults (both parents and teachers) broadcast completely unprofessional, devaluing, discrediting the child’s values ​​and things. Can you imagine if teachers almost said in unison, “These suicides never happened before! Belt - that’s education!” Every adult needs to understand that times are changing. Now the consciousness of a teenage child is completely different from that of peers from the 1980s and 1990s. Children have become much more sensitive, gentle, and vulnerable. Overprotection does not always mean a “helping hand” at a critical moment. Often it comes down to questions about food (“What did you eat, what will you eat? And what will you cook tomorrow?”). But at the same time, the child feels unwanted, rejected if his interests are hurt and his points of view are not shared. Toxic parents are focused only on food and material things, but are not at all interested in what kind of music their child likes, what books he reads. Often traumatic circumstances are devalued: If your boyfriend dumps you, don’t worry! I found someone to worry about! Or they even turn into more decisive messages: “If I see you crying because of him again, I’ll throw away the phone!” Deal with your problems yourself. It's your own fault!" "I don't understand you!" "I don't understand how anyone can like such music/literature/clothing." "Turn off this rubbish!" "You'll go crazy with your music!" "You won't achieve anything! You stupid!" "Look at you, what an artist you are - you fat pig!" Threats are used. Parents often provoke their child to run away. And sometimes they even say “if you don’t like it, go wherever you want!” It’s sad that parents reduce their responsibility only to “feeding” and “clothing”, but do not think about how they traumatize the child by rejecting him, insulting him, devaluing his hobbies, not listening, not