Today we will learn not only to cope with our own anger, but also with that of others. To do this, we will need to understand the reasons why anger appears. And only then, by acting on these reasons, we will be able to reduce it. First, remember your situations when anger or rage arises in your life. Well, most often this happens: - When someone violates your boundaries, for example, jumps in line, cuts you off in a car, or makes harsh claims to you - Another reason may be disrespect, when the family does not take your opinion into account, when violate agreements or belittle your dignity by talking about your failures. Situations like this are very significant for us. A social instinct is triggered in us, which tells us that if you now allow them to treat you like this, then now they will behave this way all the time and you will always be a loser. Therefore, fight for your rights, this instinct tells us. That is, our defensive reaction forces us to apply all our emotional and physical strength to prevent defeat. And this manifests itself in anger, screaming and often even in aggressive actions directed against another person. But, if we understand with our brains that our anger in a given situation does not bring us any benefit, but only destroys our relationships. For example, a husband came home from work, his wife shouted at him to help her with the children’s homework, and he expected a smile and a hug. Then the thought quite naturally arises in him that he is being exploited, that his needs for a kind relationship are not satisfied, that he is not respected and not loved. Of course, anger naturally arises from such an assessment in order to regain by force all these emotional benefits that he was deprived. But the reason for the anger in this case was the man’s fear that he was not loved, that his wife did not need him, that he was only being taken advantage of. That is, in most cases the cause of anger is fear. Only people have already honed their reaction to such situations so much that they instantly skip the stage of fear and immediately move on to anger. Therefore, in order to defeat anger, we need to fight a person’s fear. And then we will have 2 types of techniques, one if you want to cope with your anger, and others, if you need to calm down someone else. Watch the video “How to deal with ANGER” So, the easiest way to deal with anger is when you are struggling with your excessive anger. In this case, it is important to consider the situation in detail and understand what you are afraid of in it. That they will not love you, appreciate you, respect you, take your opinion into account, make friends, accept you, praise you, etc. And then, looking from the outside, you need to assess the realism of this situation.1. Are you really not respected, or does the person just have an opinion that differs from yours?2. Will your anger really help make someone else love you, or would it be better to say something kind in return?3. Does this situation really threaten your authority and now you will never be taken into account, or sometimes you can give in to another person, and not just do what is convenient for you? But it is very important to do this together with a psychologist so that you can draw your conclusions from that position a weak person who fears for himself. And a psychologist would help you come up with the understanding you need. As for methods of influencing the anger of another person, we should understand that we do not need to try to manipulate this person. Also, we cannot change his thinking and character. We only have this specific situation in our power, in which we can reduce his anger a little by using certain actions. So, if some person close to you is angry with you, he may shout or demand something. Then it is important for you to remember that his anger is now caused by fear. Try to understand why he was afraid. Most likely, he is afraid that you don’t love him, don’t respect him, don’t accept him, don’t appreciate him. And then do a very simple action. Tell him that he is valuable to you, that you respect him (if he is a colleague), love him, if he is"