What associations do you have with the phrase “Omnipotent control”? Something powerful and subjugating everything around? Like the famous Marvel character in the picture below? The desire to control everything is the feeling that everything depends on you and you can influence everything. In fact, Omnipotent control is a type of psychological defense. A consequence of increased anxiety and the desire to use control to avoid feelings of helplessness and defenselessness. People who tend to control everything are called “control freaks” in the world. Characteristics of control freaks: They are perfectionists. Everything has to be a little better than perfect. They are demanding both of themselves and of those around them. They tend to do everything on their own. “If you want to do it well, do it yourself.” Others won't cope. Delegating tasks/concerns to other people is not about them. They double check on those around them. Go on vacation? It’s impossible, without you everything will go to one place. You need to be aware of everything. All news has been read, chats are monitored. Even on vacation. They like to plan everything in order to avoid all possible negative scenarios. Deviation from the plan is a huge stress. Excessive control is present in different areas of life and manifests itself in different situations (not only at work, for example). Such a person sincerely believes that he must foresee, plan and control everything. And if something goes wrong, it’s definitely his fault. Why do you want to control everything? Almighty control as a primitive psychological defense is associated with the first year of a child’s life. The baby cries and the mother gives the breast or bottle. It seems to the child that he himself somehow magically organized food for himself. Then the child realizes that it is not he who organizes the food, but the mother. The idea of ​​one’s own omnipotence is transformed into the idea of ​​mother’s omnipotence. Finally, as we grow older, we understand: no one is omnipotent. This is normal. The desire for hypercontrol can become worse if the child grew up in a dysfunctional family, a family with addictions. If the behavior of one or both parents was often unpredictable. Children from such families can determine the mood of the parent by the wave of their eyebrows and try in every possible way to prevent negative consequences for themselves. Don't get caught. The child has to solve completely non-childish problems, and also respond to threats to his safety. Or the family was without addictions, but it was full of hyper-controllers in the 10th generation. If mom, dad, grandmothers, grandfathers said that nothing should be missed, all moves should be written down, then the child cannot imagine that it is possible to live any other way. Or the parents’ behavior was predictable, but cruel. Bad grade, broke a toy, stained clothes = disaster and punishment. As a result, every minor trouble begins to be perceived as the end of the world, which you want to avoid. And the desire to control everything can be a manifestation of anxiety disorder, OCD and other more serious problems. What does the desire to control everything and everyone lead to? It happens that the habit of controlling everything is beneficial . In your presence, no one will miss the plane or forget their passport. And there will be much fewer errors in the work. In addition, control seems to save a little from anxiety. It seems to us that everything is in our hands and this calms us down a little. But intolerance of uncertainty is terribly energy-consuming! And the feeling of being unable to influence circumstances is probably one of the worst states in life. And also: most likely, you pretty much infuriate the people around you with your control :) there may be problems in relationships, because... control = problems with trust. In work and in business, you can work to the point of burnout if you double-check everything and don’t delegate anything. Hello, depression, anxiety disorders, sleep problems. How can working with a psychologist help? You can determine what needs you are meeting with through excessive control. What does omnipotent control do for you? Feeling needed? Do you want your loved ones to be proud of you? Anything else? You)