From the author: What should a single mother do with love? The boy cried during training. There was no particular reason for this. The situation is very often repeated. The other boy pushed him and took his place. The reasons for tears are different: pain, resentment, irritation, the desire to arouse pity. Tears are a common occurrence in children. The only way to show your dissatisfaction or discomfort is tears. It’s easier for adults, they can say, scream, be rude, and run away, in the end. But children do not have such experience and communication skills. My vocabulary is small, but I want to speak out. Tears help with this. In this case, the child needs to be taught to resist and solve problems on their own. I, as a coach, began to act. “Baby, there is no reason for tears, tell Dana that this is your place, and you do not intend to give in.” Don't be afraid, I won't hurt you. Oh, Danya, don’t push – it’s not good. But the boy simply began to go hysterical, designed to make people feel sorry for him. But there is nothing to be sorry about, all children push, and besides, this is quite normal for this age (3 years). But then his mother literally came running to him and began to stroke him, hold him close and calm him down. How to teach a boy to resist bullies and fight back? His mother doesn’t give him the opportunity to even think about it. “Why are you doing this?” I asked later. “I feel sorry for him.” “You have a boy, he doesn’t need to wipe away his tears in such cases and instantly run to the rescue.” Give him the opportunity to learn to give back. “I understand that this is wrong, but I can’t do otherwise, this is my child and I love him,” the mother answered. REFLECTION OF RELATIONS IN THE FAMILY In this case, everything is very simple. The daughter is 12 years old, the boy is 3 years old. Mom is a young woman about 35 years old. Dad in this family is about 60 years old. I thought it was not dad, but grandfather. Well. there are many such families. But their problems are identical. When a twenty-year-old girl marries a man of 40-45 years old, this is normal. But when we see a married couple where the wife is 35-40 years old and the husband is 60 years old, we understand that this is not normal. Let men be offended by me, but by marrying a girl 20-30 years younger, they want to deceive nature and are selfish. Such a man thinks about himself, but not about his wife and future children. Such a father will not see his daughter's wedding. He will not have time to raise his children to adulthood. And what should a woman in her prime do next to an old man? Where should she put her love? WHAT IS IT, LOVE? Love is a state that everyone has. There are no people who don't have love. But she is different. Love between a man and a woman is different from love for a child or homeland. But when there is no love for a man, the woman distributes her love to her son. Her little son becomes her man. It is the son who is carrying this burden, not realizing what it is. You can remember many such “couples”. And when I work with children, I come across this situation all the time. At the same time, the mother does not realize what she is doing. She just loves her child. What should she do? Where to put your unspent love?