And let today be the first of April. The topic is not a joke. Conflict does not appear out of the blue. Something always precedes it 🔥 Most often, grievances accumulate little by little, and finding the root cause is quite difficult. But when they accumulate and begin to look for a way out, it is even more difficult to avoid a scandal. But there is still one method that you can put into practice yourself. It's a simple matter of understanding a simple question. We all know and understand perfectly well what it means to behave humanly and not humanly. For example, if one person says something offensive to another, that is bad. If one person deceives and betrays another, this is bad. If one person takes money from another without asking, this is also bad. This is theft and it shouldn't be like that. Let's take these three cases as an example ✅ It would seem that everything is simple: live calmly as a human being, and everything will be fine. But there is one small nuance that spoils everything. And it looks like this: if we add a gender component to our examples and divide two people into a man and a woman, we get a very interesting picture. If one person says offensive words to another, this is bad. But if a woman says them to a man, then she seems to be simply being capricious... If one person deceives and betrays another, this is bad. But if this is a man, then he most often justifies himself by saying that he is polygamous and has the right to many women. If one person takes money from another without asking, this is, of course, theft. It should not be! But remember the examples that are probably familiar to everyone, when a wife quietly takes money out of her husband’s wallet, justifying it with the family budget. Or when a husband, being unemployed, secretly withdraws money from his wife’s card. Family budget! I am the husband, I am the wife, we can. Do you see how deep the rabbit hole is? 🙈 Actions that lead to quarrels and discord in the family are very often justified by their belonging to one gender or another. It happens that to resolve a conflict you just need to forget about whether you are a man or a woman. When one person apologizes to another for behaving incorrectly, that’s good! But if a man behaves “like a man,” then he is simply not able to do this. Because “real men don’t apologize.” Just like a woman, based on her gender, can say something like “he’s a man, so let him come first.” Sometimes, in order to solve a problem, it’s enough to understand one simple thing: we all have one thing in common. First of all, each of us is a Human being, and only then we are divided into men and women. And if you understand and accept this, there is a way out of any problem. But at the same time, this can be very difficult to do, because when a Person begins to think from this position, he immediately begins to feel the burden of his own actions. And it’s much easier to cope with this if you turn to a psychologist in time. Your psychologist Rushan Salakhetdinov.