The most important and first thing to do is to examine your resources (the same strengths) and deficits (limitations). °One of the ideas of positive psychotherapy by N. Pezeshkian - a method that teaches “to understand the hidden possibilities in each of us and the amazing prospect of revealing oneself.” °The name of positive psychotherapy comes from the Latin word positum - “actual”, “given” (this is the first the meaning of this word, and the second is positive) and means a realistic attitude towards the client and his problem. ° That is, it is useful to learn to rely on your own resources, while, of course, keeping in mind deficits and, if desired, influencing them. ° "If you need a hand help, turn your attention to your own hands,” said N. Pezeshkian. ° At the same time, it can be useful to come up with helpers (supports, tricks, cheat sheets, plans, support from loved ones). Sometimes a simple question: “Why should I fail?” can give answers that can not only point you in the right direction, but also give you confidence. °We all know that each of us usually helps with stress, we need to expand our range and actively use it. °I remember an excerpt from the book “Alice the Kitty. The World of Emotions”, the chapter about Fear, where He tells Alice about what he usually it helps her, and protects her from... We all come from childhood, don’t be lazy, read this book yourself or with your children. °So, Fear not only protects, but also makes some situation noticeable, noticeably significant for us. It can give us strength (time) to make a decision.°Fear makes it possible to understand our zone of proximal development (sometimes it’s about what we want and are afraid of not achieving).°If you are a specialist, then the idea that I will definitely help the only person who understands this. Of course, if you believe in what you do/say, then it turns out much better. °I can talk for hours on my favorite topics that are my professional interests. °Many skills develop with enough practice. Speaking skills develop in much the same way as driving skills. It takes practice. °If you dig deeper, it is useful to look for the meaning of what is happening and discover its consequences. The cause of fear may be hidden, because not everything that is on the surface is true. That is, behind the fear of speaking, for example, there may be a fear of appearing somehow or losing something... if you unwind these moments and think about what will happen if something doesn’t happen, everything may not be so scary. Because we are often afraid of what, fortunately, never happens. -Who is a brave person? - the one who is afraid and does...°Because healthy is not the one who has no problems, but the one who knows how to solve them.° And now a little practice. Goal: to fully accept all aspects of your “I.” How to do it: take a piece of paper, a pen and start by listing all the names, affectionate and humorous nicknames that they call you. Then list your qualities, moral and physical. Indicate which ones you consider important and which ones are unimportant. If you find it difficult to praise yourself, imagine how your best friend or loved one would describe you. Don’t forget to mention your shortcomings, but also in an excellent form: “No one knows how to miss deadlines like me. Once I completed an order from my boss only after a year, although I should have done so in a week.” Make the text poetic. Introduce into it metaphors related to nature: “agile, like a cat,” “flexible, like a reed.” Write everything as it is. There is no need to be modest or shy. And the hardest part: read the casala to one or more friends. See if they agree with your description.°Goal: to drive away doubts about your capabilities and strengths. How to do it: in a desperate moment, write on paper or say out loud four questions and your answers to them. For example, you think, “There is no way I can get this job.” Ask yourself: Is this true? Your answer could be a resounding “yes,” an uncertain “yes,” or even “not entirely true.” Answer sincerely. You.