The moment has come when you unclench your palm and let go of his little hand. And, looking at his receding back, covered with a brand new backpack, they swallowed the lump rising in their throats. We unsuccessfully tried to understand when he managed to grow so quickly from small doll overalls into an almost adult formal suit? For many parents, this day, in addition to joyful excitement, which is quite understandable at the beginning of each new stage in life, gives rise to anxiety, the nature of which is not entirely clear to them. This anxiety tries to “objectify” itself about something simple, obvious, something that can be easily improved and corrected. For the hundredth time, we critically examine our child for the shirt tucked into his pants, tied laces or bows, the integrity of the bouquet in his hands, the presence of a pencil case in his backpack. However, the excitement does not subside even if all these points are successfully implemented. There is no free exhalation, there is no feeling that the exam has been passed. Because it's not like that. The exam is just beginning and we know it. The beginning of school life is really a kind of exam for parents. This period becomes a crisis in many families. This is the time when our wonderful child comes into contact with society for the first time independently, without a buffer in the form of parents. And we are afraid of his failure, which will reveal our parental mistakes. After all, preparing a child for school is not just sending him to preparatory classes, buying a uniform and waking him up at seven in the morning on September 1st. School readiness is the result of the previous seven years of life. Is he healthy and physically strong enough to cope with the school load? Has he played enough role-playing games to be able to successfully build social interactions now? Have we taught him lessons about boundaries well enough so that he is now able to accept and follow the rules? Have we made sure that the teacher, whose personality will be reflected throughout the child’s life, is a person we trust? Have we nourished him with our care, love and acceptance so much that possible conflicts with classmates will strengthen him and not break him? Whether we realize it or not, school, like a litmus test, will reveal the results of our parental work. However, it is not at all necessary for the first class to become a year-long doomsday! This happens if, out of habit, we continue to bear full responsibility for our child without sharing it with him. When we say and feel like “WE went to school.” Seven years old, the beginning of school, is the extreme point when it is very important to divide “WE” into “I” and “HE”. “We ate”, “We slept”, which was appropriate and so organic seven or six years ago, is now becoming traumatic for both. It is HE who goes to school, and we accompany him. This is the beginning (if we have not already started doing this earlier) of the stage when we need to begin to gradually transfer into his small hands responsibility for his life commensurate with them. Otherwise, all its difficulties will be perceived as our defeats. Any manifestation of his failure will drive us into guilt and shame... and ricochet back into the child with our dissatisfaction and anger. Meanwhile, the child really needs parental support. It is very important for him to feel support at home in order to be able to recover from everything that happens to him at school. Instead, the school and parents often unite into a coalition, and the child is left alone with the feeling of wrongness. And now he becomes that buffer between parents and society, which shows the success or failure of both one and the other. The paradox of getting out of this situation is that only by separating can you stay together. Only by delineating responsibility does it become possible to remain on the child’s side. Your child goes to school in order to solve his problems there. A teacher is waiting for him there, who must fulfill his!