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How to instill responsibility in children? As a child, my mother and grandmother (more of course my grandmother) always poured tea for me, I just had to ask. I asked, and here it is, not very hot, sweet, and even with a sandwich (as I like it, or rather loved it, now I drink it straight hot and without sugar). One day, there were no women in the house, I asked my father, and without hesitation, he “Go and pour yourself some tea!” It hit me like cold water: - “Wow, is this possible, but can I?” And the question, and the joy and excitement! It was both interesting and exciting to pour myself tea for the first time. When he poured it, he sat and drank it with pride. I poured my own tea! Is this responsible? I think yes! What I can do as a child, I begin to do, I begin to take care of myself, and when I don’t know, don’t understand something, I ask! And, this is also responsibility! Yes, about responsibility! What is this anyway? Based on the accepted algorithms, this is the ability to analyze the situation, predict the consequences of your actions, make a choice of the form of your actions, and be ready to accept the consequences of your choice. The first, most correct thing is to be responsible for yourself for your family, children, in order to broadcast something like this attitude towards life and your children. The first and I think the most important thing. If we talk about the responsibility of children, it is more likely not to teach, but to be. It is impossible to teach responsibility only when you yourself are responsible - the child absorbs this and for him it becomes the norm of behavior in the future, just as the parents’ irresponsible behavior also becomes the norm... if there is such a thing. Responsibility always goes hand in hand with freedom. Give children the opportunity to make mistakes, get dirty, fall, and walk through puddles. By covering and protecting them from this behavior, you realize two things - you protect yourself from problems (washing, ironing, worry about the child due to the fact that he needs to be watched more carefully) and do not allow the child to develop and learn new things. Don’t think that I’m talking about complete freedom for a child, I’m talking about the freedom that he can bear. The trust of a parent. How you want to do something for your child, but he doesn’t do it as quickly and not as well as you. Be patient and show wisdom. What a child has accomplished to the end - coped with it - is reflected as success; right there next to it is the courage to take responsibility and achieve success. A very rare quality of an adult. The wisdom of a parent. Try to consult with your child on issues that concern him. This will give him the opportunity to feel significant, and will allow him to begin to show his qualities at this stage. The responsibility here is that the child will know that he also has a role in the decision made. His own corner. The child should have his own corner where everything is there, as he wants, his place for which he is responsible, the parent’s intrusion there and “swinging” of rights there is not acceptable. Everything happens in this territory only on the basis of advice and recommendations. Delegate. As he grows up, trust your child with housework, the work that he can handle, explaining that all family members are busy, from this he begins to feel his place in this family. Do not overdo it with the transfer! Usually the older children in the family are anxious, and they owe a lot to whom (as they are sure). This can be explained by the fact that they had increased demands on caring for the younger children in their families. To avoid this, do not rush to put too much burden on your children and take away their childhood. Of course, you are quite right to say that this issue is not limited to these points. "You're right!" - I will answer. In each family, everything is very individual, but even starting from these simple points, you can avoid mutual accusations with your child in the future. And one more thing, the child is not our property, this is a person whom we had to help get on his feet, to help, and not solve your problems at his expense. About our problems solved at the expense of our children in the following broadcasts and articles