From the author: The development of whims in preschoolers is facilitated by a still fragile nervous system. Against this background, whims often arise as a result of fatigue, malaise, overexcitement, excess impressions and experiences. The most typical mistakes of adults that provoke whims in children are: 1) authoritarianism or hyperprotection (overprotective behavior of parents), suppressing the independence of children. In this case, “the whims of the offended” arise; 2) indulgence in all his whims in the complete absence of reasonable requirements (“the whims of the darling”); 3) the lack of the care necessary for the child, an indifferent or vaguely expressed attitude towards positive and negative patterns of behavior and actions of the child, the absence a consistent system of reward and punishment (“the whims of the neglected”). 4) inconsistency or lack of unity in the requirements for the child. For example, if yesterday during a walk you allowed your baby to splash through the puddles, and today you suddenly forbade it, then you cannot avoid bitter tears! What to do if the child is capricious? · Let the child be with himself You need to understand that the stormy scene is intended by the child for spectators and sympathizers. If the baby constantly makes sure that the screams do not touch those around him at all, then the habit of imitating a hysteria will gradually disappear. · Do not yell at the child Even if you no longer have the strength to listen to the screams and observe the ugly behavior of your child, try to restrain yourself (you all -older) and explain your decision in a calm tone. You are an example for your child, he copies your behavior. · Don’t just say “no.” You need to explain why “no.” Your child is much smarter than you think, and he also has the right to know why he will not have this wonderful toy in his opinion. · Do not infringe on the child Children are interested in everything that surrounds them, including your things. Try to explain to your child from a very early age what is “own” and “alien.” And that you don’t need to take someone else’s. But if, nevertheless, a child takes one of your things, do not take it away from him, but offer an alternative. · Do not indulge the child’s whims · Pay attention to the child · Set a good example If you have a great temperament, try to direct it in a positive direction. The child looks at you, and no matter how trivial it may sound, you are the main example for him. Should you punish for whims? Physical punishment of the child, in no case! Violence is not a method. If a child is naughty, he needs to be deprived of attention and made clear that you do not like it, and that you are not obliged to listen to him until he begins to behave more prudently.