Often in consultations I hear problems: - he doesn’t understand me, ignores me, doesn’t hear - doesn’t notice my desires and needs - hears selectively and doesn’t do everything I ask, and then doesn’t understand why am I offended. Clients are very annoyed by this. Indeed, there is little pleasant, BUT What can be done about it? In addition, how to change a partner, because... It's more often than not a matter of no. Learn to speak so that you are heard. On Valentine's Day, we will discuss an important topic - communication with a partner. Let's figure it out together and try to apply it in relationships. The most important tips for learning to speak so that people want to listen to you1. Before you learn to speak, learn to listen actively. What does it mean? not just remain silent and not interrupt when the other person is speaking, but also sincerely show your emotions with facial expressions and body, ask questions, call by name, maintain eye contact. If you don’t know how to listen yourself, then you are unlikely to be surrounded by those who know how to do this do because we attract people similar to us2. Speak without creating misunderstandings. One did not say anything, thinking that the second would guess, but the second did not understand anything and a quarrel ensued. It is important to keep in mind that no one should read minds or guess what the other person wants. The task of a person is to understand for himself what he wants, and then convey it to another. And if the person himself does not fully understand what he wants or is embarrassed to talk about it, then he puts him in the position of the second, “guess it, make a decision for me.” This is about a child's position, where boundaries are not built and there is no responsibility for one's life. 3. Don't try to be something you're not. If you try to be someone you're not, people will sense it. Not only will you seem insincere, but you will also waste a lot of resources and be physically exhausted. So be yourself and say what you feel4. Learn to recognize your emotions. Before you speak and expect support from another person, first understand how you feel and how you feel about it. This way, you can explain to another what state you are in and then it will be easier for him to help you.5. Immediately set boundaries and show how people can communicate with you and how not. If you don’t set boundaries, others will violate them. Tell your partner how to support you, how best to tell him to make you feel loved. Everyone is unique, and when we enter into a relationship, we learn to communicate again: we learn to speak so that we can be heard and we ourselves learn to listen to the other. If you understand that any of the points are difficult for you, then you can sign up for a consultation and we will change it together