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Actively maintaining relationships with many people, promoting yourself and your ideas, making quick decisions, constantly being visible and in touch - trying to live up to these attitudes, many of us feel uncomfortable. How to maintain harmony with yourself for those for whom modern life is too much of a irritant? Introversion is often confused with shyness. In both cases, a person’s social connections are limited, but for different reasons. Shy people strive for contact, but to no avail, as they experience communication difficulties. Introverts prefer solitude because it makes them feel better. They are excellent conversationalists, they have close friends, but an excess of social activity suppresses them. The need to fit into today's aggressive and competitive work environment and maintain a fast-paced life is stressful and psychologically draining for an introvert. Already prone to self-examination, he becomes even more self-critical and anxious. “Since childhood, I haven’t liked big companies,” Olga admits. “After the meetings and negotiations, I feel exhausted, although I clearly see that my career largely depends on my willingness to be an active player in the team.” Igor is perplexed why his friends won’t leave him alone: ​​“For some reason everyone around me thinks that I’m lonely and is persistently trying to entertain me. It takes a lot of effort for me to constantly convince them that it’s nice for me to spend a Saturday afternoon at home, alone.” Our time is ideal for extroverts - open, active people who are recharged by others. These two personality types were first described by Carl Gustav Jung in 1921. He believed that extroverts define their “I” through their environment and socially active roles. Introverts become aware of themselves through their experiences, thoughts, and dreams. Their system of internal values ​​is also different. Introverts do not strive for a consistently positive attitude: strong emotions prevent them from hearing themselves. Extroverts, on the contrary, need strong experiences and great success and are much more actively involved in social life. Introverts are often invisible, because they tend to stay in the shadows and sometimes prefer communication with themselves to any company. Many perceive them as obviously weak, uninteresting interlocutors, although in reality this may not be the case at all. Introverts are forced to explain themselves and apologize for what comes naturally to them. The consequence of this is their increasing alienation not only from society, but also from themselves. Therefore, if you are an introvert, you should not deny yourself the right to be alone with music, a movie or a book. You need to choose the distance and volume of communication that suits you. Live at your own pace, in harmony with yourself and the world around you! How to communicate with them? Extroverts often cannot imagine that not everyone is enthusiastic about a corporate party or a trip out of town with a large group. If you are more of an extrovert, keep in mind: it is difficult to make an introvert happy by telling him that you will now come to his house with friends. Such a person urgently needs solitude to restore internal resources - an unexpected invasion deprives him of this opportunity. * When talking to him, do not demand an immediate reaction - your interlocutor needs time to formulate answers. *If the introvert starts talking, do not interrupt. He reacts sharply to inattention and is unlikely to repeat himself, so as not to make the same mistake twice. *Don’t try to “win” an introvert to your side by imposing an expressive way of expressing yourself on him. He, just like you, has every right to remain himself.