Although seeking help from a psychologist is no longer unusual, many people have little understanding of what to expect from such an interaction. Hence the frequent questions about the method of work of a psychologist, about the work plan, the requirements for belonging to a certain direction. What happens during psychotherapeutic interaction, what is its difference from coaching and even from short-term psychological counseling? A person goes to psychotherapy when he understands (or although would feel) that something is wrong with his fundamental attitudes towards life - towards loved ones, society, himself, finally - and that these deep-seated attitudes cannot be changed by simple (or even difficult) advice, analysis of some situations from the past or present. Let us remember that psychotherapy arose as a method of treating neuroses, but who is a neurotic? In my opinion, a neurotic is a person who is constantly looking for confirmation from the outside: confirmation of his attractiveness, his worth, his being, finally. A psychologically healthy and mature person is a person who does not need this confirmation from the outside. Of course, this does not mean that he is independent from society: like anyone else, he can be rejected by someone, not accepted, not appreciated. The difference is that, although private problems may be upsetting, they do not affect the sense of self-worth: a psychologically stable person will simply tell himself something like: “I don’t fit here, but that’s not because I’m some kind of person.” wrong, I just don’t fit, I’ll fit somewhere else (someone else).” How is such stability achieved? As is known, the main therapeutic factor in psychotherapy is the relationship built between the client and the therapist, the direction of the work does not play such a significant role. Hyperbolizing, one can even say that the direction should only be sufficiently interesting and suitable for both participants in this interaction, so that they have something to do while their relationship is being built. How is this communication different from any other, why is it so important for the therapist not to evaluate, not to give advice and many other “don’ts”? In my opinion, the main thing that a client gains during a long, safe, non-judgmental interaction with a therapist is a new experience of a relationship, a relationship in which he is never rejected and is always heard. The experience of here-being, in which it is always valuable; the experience of meeting oneself, but in the presence of another; the experience of feeling valued in the presence of that other. And by receiving this experience again and again, the client gains the opportunity to transfer this feeling of self-worth into the world.