From the author: The article is devoted to the problem of building relationships between spouses in the post-romantic period. Sometimes he still appears, the one whom some women have been waiting for all their lives - a prince on a white horse. He is ideal, gives flowers and predicts wishes. He tries his best to turn every meeting into a holiday. The woman begins to believe that fairy tales come true. But time passes and the prince changes. First, flowers disappear, holidays become less frequent, and then disappear altogether. She sees in front of her a completely different person: busy with himself, with his own affairs and experiences. It’s good if the prince is successful in life: he throws himself into his work, often ignoring all the requests and wishes of the former princess. At worst, if the hero does not have everything going for him with self-realization, he simply withdraws into himself, choosing a sofa, a place at the computer, a bar or a dacha as his place of deployment. Partners learn to live with each other again. After the outburst of love comes sobering up. I have already written about the fact that, as a rule, people turn to love from a feeling of internal dissatisfaction with their life. For a woman, self-realization in the family traditionally occupies a more important place than for the stronger half of humanity. Therefore, they are more practical about the metamorphosis of “love, marriage, family.” Men are not prone to reflection, so they experience the disappearance of awe and romantic flair in relationships more painfully. Moreover, they tend to blame their beloved for their failures in life. When a person faints due to stress, he falls out of reality. They hit him on the cheeks, splash him with cold water, and give him ammonia to sniff. He returns to reality and realizes that nothing has changed. Therefore, resentment towards the woman arises. Very simple logic: when he was in love, he ignored his problems. When the romance ended, he encountered them again. In addition, the solution to these problems is complicated by the presence of a woman who is “always expecting something” from him. Two options arise: either look for new love, or try to learn to live with this person. Often, when a woman makes some claims, especially when her partner feels she is right, a deadly argument is used: “I do this (or don’t do it) because I don’t love you.” Both find themselves in an emotional swoon. The man believes that there is no way out of the conflict, because... during the period of falling in love, he did not live his life, replacing his needs with hers. He simply cannot separate the affect from the need to be able to negotiate. For a woman, admitting she doesn’t love you loses ground under her feet. You should never allow yourself to say these words. Over time, the words of men are replaced by deeds. They themselves do not always understand this. It's worth giving them the opportunity to do good things.