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Unfortunately, we are all mortal. And often our loved ones suffer from the fact that someone is missing or someone is seriously ill or has died. How can we help our loved ones? They need to be supported. Grief brings people together. Presence is necessary. If there is no possibility of physical presence, then what is possible. It is very important for those who suffered that you talk to them. And not necessarily about grief. You can also talk about your life. Because many keep grief inside themselves and this grief begins to increase. It helps people a lot when they can speak up. You speak out yourself, talk yourself and give the opportunity to close people to talk to you and tell you how they feel. During the conversation, a person may have different feelings. And he needs to live them. Perhaps these will be memories of joyful and pleasant moments about the person he lost. And it is important to remember them. I think it’s possible to laugh. When there is a fixation only on pain and sorrow, it takes away a person’s vital energy. But life goes on. Talk to them and they will feel better. How to communicate with others correctly in such a situation? Should you ask about the grief that happened or focus on something else? Helping loved ones when they are experiencing grief is not so easy. There are quite subtle things at this point. For example, it’s not worth getting into a person’s soul and trying to talk through his emotions with him if he doesn’t want to. Even a parent who tells a crying child whose car has broken down: “Don’t cry, you’ll think it’s some kind of trifle.” This cannot be done. When a person is in grief, you should not devalue his emotions. Stages of grief You also need to understand that there are stages of grief, which, according to the observations of psychologists, generally last a year. The first state can be shock. He can lie down and just look at the ceiling. Or deny what happened. Saying it's impossible. Next come emotional outbursts, usually aggression. For yourself, for the situation, for someone else. The next stage of bidding. The person is already beginning to doubt his own denial of grief. This is followed by depression. A state of sadness, grief, despondency, loss. And the overestimating stage is acceptance. When a person realizes what really happened. And reasonable and reassuring explanations for what happened are included. After which he begins to make plans for the future. Knowing these stages, you can understand how to help in each specific case. No matter how much we would like to apply this knowledge in practice, but such is life…