From the author: The topic is inspired by a colleague’s article on the boundaries of personality and how to send away everyone who wants to violate it. Reflections on the topic without claims to be scientific and true. Let’s just think about it. What is a border? The word “border” is a derivative of the form “edge”, which has been known in the Old Russian language since the 14th century. The Old Russian word “edge” meant “a sign on trees on the border of land or side plots.” A sign indicating a boundary. A boundary is the middle of a track, the area between the depressions formed by the wheels on the road. In essence, we get that the boundary is the golden mean between the movement of two wheels. This is what is between two, this is what unites two. After all, a line is a line that unites two sides. Now let’s look at the definitions of today. What are the boundaries of personality? This is what separates us from those around us. The personal boundary is a thin line drawn in our understanding and feeling of ourselves as individuals. Everything seems to be logical for the mind - it’s worth realizing your boundaries, your separateness, and it seems like this is aimed at improving relationships with the world . The attitude itself contains something completely different from the focus on interaction. SEPARATION, DISTANCE, AVOIDANCE, TURN AWAY, etc. Separate - turn away from common affairs. “ON” and “OT” carry different meanings. ON - direct your gaze to the person. OT - turn away from a person. So how does separation contribute to better relationships? So how does separation contribute to unity? Divide and conquer (c) The path to interaction through separation, in my personal opinion, makes little sense. After all, as a rule, when talking about boundaries, we hear the words - defend, protect, restore, strengthen our personal boundaries. Life turns into constant combat readiness, which contributes to increased levels of anxiety and fear. Or into a permanent construction site - whose boundaries are steeper, whose “fence is higher and more powerful.” When to interact? And where this place of action is mutual. When is it worth protecting your borders? Maybe this helps to increase the number of “border guards” and increases the amount of work for specialists? But realizing oneself as a unit of a single space is a completely different path of movement. The human body is wisely designed by nature and does not end with the skin and the physical component. Accepting oneself as a unit of a single space of life promotes high-quality interaction, both with oneself and with the world. After all, the place where you drew a boundary for yourself that limits you is actually the place of your CONTACT with the world, the place of your CO-CREATION with the world. This is the place of “CO” - the convergence of your images and the image of the world. This is the place of CONNECTION into one - the joint creation of life, leading to health and quality of life in all spheres of life of the entire species of life - Man. While humanity is aimed at building borders, there is no common movement forward. There is a general degradation. By the way, where in nature can one observe the boundaries of separation? Is there a boundary between day and night, meadow and forest, sea and sky, etc.? We wish you all a beautiful development in unity! I will be glad if my articles prove useful to you in the practice of your life!