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Specializing in working with sexual trauma: incest, harassment, rape, she published a number of articles: https://www.b17.ru/article/128388/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru/article/314045/? prt=9https://www.b17.ru/article/284036/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru/article/285443/?prt=92671https://www.b17.ru/article/344482/ " Psychology and psychotherapy of psychological trauma”, Martel’s book “Sexuality, Love and Gestalt”, Lennart Ollars’ article “Bodynamic work with victims of attack and violence” and, of course, the psychotherapist’s own experience. 1. The first stage is about establishing a safe space. Of course, as always in therapy. But with people who come with this issue, trusting relationships have a special place. This is the “stop” rule, and saying that we have enough time, a reminder: “You can talk about what happened when you are ready.” 2. The second stage echoes the first. Here it is important to pay painstaking attention to a person’s internal concerns and fears about starting to talk about sexual trauma. A person often worries that he will not be able to withstand the memories and pain associated with what happened. Or rage. Then the therapist asks in detail what exactly he fears. Going crazy, having a heart attack, being completely overwhelmed by pain, something else?...What can be done? A person, for example, is given control: “You can follow how the session is moving.” At this point, it’s not a sin to “stomp around” for a long time, the main thing is approach the third stage with inner calm.3. "Breaking the wall of silence." The man tells; the context of the event is restored. We ask slowly about his behavior, her behavior. What did he do, what did she do, what happened after? Why do this? To escape dissociation.4. Working out suppressed feelings: humility, capitulation; anger at the rapist, desire for revenge; anger at others - no one interfered; your own fault! According to Martel: fear, disgust, shame. Techniques of containerization and sewerage, rescripting. Rescripting: https://www.b17.ru/article/154552/?prt=92671 “The work of releasing and integrating anger should be done slowly and gradually, in small steps to avoid overwhelming and overloading the client with this feeling.” 5. Damage restoration List of claims and demands against the rapist (Martel). In my experience, this is a difficult point. Since I use rescripting (immersion in the past with the aim of rewriting a piece of history to meet the needs of a person at THAT time), therefore claims and demands are easier to work out. 6. Restoration of bodily reactions that were not located at the time of the commission violent actions.7. Working with solutions! We find ideas and attitudes formed as a result of sexual abuse. For example: - I will be raped if I show my sexuality - I will not communicate with men - showing sexuality is dangerous. Life was before and after. Therefore, new ideas, attitudes, and values ​​arise. Before, I was a spontaneous, open child. Afterwards he survives. How? We explore.According to Wirtz.-security-trust-power and control-evaluation (value system)-ability for intimacy. Changes occur in all parameters!!! 7. Establishing relationships with other people 8. Returning healthy sexuality. “Therapy “changes” internal experience to one that could have been survived if appropriate help had arrived or the client himself could have reacted differently” L. Ollars. With respect to you, Elena Kislova. Sign up for a consultation: +7 (913) 985-72-92 ( WhatsApp, Telegram). Subscribe to my Telegram channel: https://t.me/psychologist_ElenaKislova