Imagine two friends who meet in a cafe and are having a lively conversation. The conversation is normal: about work, family, friends. Did you know that family conflicts most often begin in this very place and under such circumstances? And not only family ones. When people share their social experiences, they can ask a tricky question: why is it not so for you? This is not normal, it’s wrong! This is where a stereotype is born about what relationships with a husband, children, colleagues, bosses, friends, service personnel, etc. should look like. An example of such questions: why don’t you and your husband spend the weekend together? Why do children bring friends home whenever they want? Why are you communicating with this colleague? He's so boring and unsociable. In other words, it is imposed on us what the person next to us should be and what he should do. By the way, the same applies to cultural content. Cinema, cartoons, literature - all this creates in our minds images of those people and relationships that surround us. And when our images collide with the real world, conflict often cannot be avoided. It seems that the people who surround us are somehow wrong. They don't treat us the way they should. “I’m great, I’m fulfilling my role properly, but you must change!” Okay, stop. Forget about this logic. What is our task? Build successful relationships with others. What exactly can you do about this? Expand your tunnel thinking. Accept a variety of behavior patterns without conforming to standards. The only measure of things in this matter is how you feel in the given relationship. Now a little about individual differences. You will become much better able to understand the motives and behavior of people, without projecting it onto yourself, if you become familiar with the concept of psychotype or character accentuations (the most pronounced personality traits that are within normal limits, but under unfavorable conditions can become pathological). According to A. P. Egides identifies 11 psychotypes: - paranoid - epileptoid - hysteroid - hyperthym - schizoid - psychasthenoid - sensitive - hypothym - cycloid - conformal - unstable I will write in more detail about each of these psychotypes separately. I am confident that this knowledge will help you understand the people around you and build the most productive relationships. Follow the continuation! Online psychologist, CBT therapist Ilyina Yulia Igorevna. Sign up for a consultation: +79138523829 (Whats App, Telegram)