I'll start with a client's story. Let this be a collective image of a young woman. This is what she said: “We had a very strong quarrel with my boyfriend on my birthday. I told him in advance how important this day was for me, how hard I was experiencing it, how nervous I started a week before it, how my mood deteriorated. This for me was due to the fact that my parents did not give me enough attention , they could either forget to congratulate me, or do it “without a soul,” so that I often experienced disappointment and pain on my birthday. I told all this to my boyfriend and hoped that he would give me such a holiday, in which I will feel the real joy of my birth. That this day would become a day of love, tenderness, surprises. But my expectations were in vain. Despite all our conversations, my young man did not understand anything. In the morning we woke up as if on a normal day. He didn’t congratulate me, didn’t bring me coffee and my favorite tiramisu in bed. He didn't give me a gift or flowers. When we had breakfast, he said that he had planned a surprise for me in honor of my birthday - a jeep safari. My mood was getting worse and worse. This “walk” along the dusty roads not only did not bring me any pleasure, but brought me to tears. We returned home and quarreled. After two hours of sorting things out, I slammed the door and left for my apartment. I was so offended that I asked my boyfriend to leave me alone for a while. I was bitter, hurt, and after about a week, when it began to seem to me that my feelings for him were beginning to “cool down,” when I seemed to have already begun to wean myself off him, he appeared. With flowers, with an expensive gift, with an apology, with a declaration of love. I gradually “thawed out”. I realized how much I didn’t want and was afraid of actually losing him. My feelings flared up with renewed vigor. But, as they say, “spoons were found, but the sediment remained.” Why didn't he understand anything? I explained to him how important this is for me.” Sound familiar? Men often don’t guess with a gift, with a “scenario”, with a place for a birthday, etc. They can give flowers that the girl doesn’t like, or the wrong color, or with a strong, intolerable smell, like lilies. What to do? - Making foggy ones hints, hope that the man will guess and do everything as needed. And if not, then don’t get upset and don’t take it to heart. Be prepared that a man may have his own romantic plan in mind. - If all the details and nuances are so important to you that you may be very upset, do not take risks. Tell your man directly what you want: what gift, how you want to spend your birthday, where. Plan the “scenario” yourself, all the moments that are significant to you. It’s too wasteful to waste your life on grievances due to unfulfilled expectations. About why some people don’t like their birthday, are nervous, sad on this day, don’t want to celebrate it, I will write a continuation of the article. Do you love your birthday? You can sign up for a consultation via a personal message on the website, by calling +7 916 158 13 08 (Whats App or Telegram is preferable)